[Victoria'smom]

Miguel's suppose to start school the 1st. Currently were in transition of starting at the new center. He's been depressed/argumentative for a while. We tried waiting for a new T at current center but that never happens and we're moving to a new center. Currently he's not scheduled to see anyone until we see if we like it. Anyway he's going to the in-laws next week to help his cousin out, only for the week. So he'll be with his cousin when he starts his next set of classes.

Do I drop him out of those classes and wait because of everything going on?

If so how long do I wait?
Do I have him start anyway? There all AP courses so waiting would cause him to have a shorter time to prepare for the end of year test which means more stress. His in-class subjects don't start until the 15th.

What about therapy how long do we wait on that? Do we wait on that?

I'm tired of being our case manager. I long to have things just set up for me/my family and told just when to show up for appointments and help me with all the paperwork it takes to run our little family. I'm torn I want him to start class ASAP but MI is more important. I wish there was a support group for him. I want him re-diagnosed. I want to trust that he's getting something out of therapy. I want him to have someone to call when he needs a non-parental adult to talk to.

[Daonnachd]

That's a tough series of questions to answer. My thought is school may provide him a sense of normalcy and thus ease the tension for you all to a degree.

[violetgreen]

About having a non parent adult to call, my daughters had music teachers who they had developed relationships with. Those were grounding relationships that grew over time. I hear what you're saying about being your own case manager, my husband says the same thing managing his diabetes, RA, etc. it sounds like you have a clear understanding of the issues and what needs to be done. Did you get your son's input in this, what does he want to do, timing wise. You're doing an awesome job.

[Victoria'smom]

I never thought of a music teacher. That's a great idea. He'd want to procrastinate and put schooling off. I need to sit down with him and make a clear list of who he feels he can talk to and the new centers crisis number.

[unaluna]

What is he helping his cousin with? Why is that more important than school? My parents would never have taken me out of school for anything.

[Victoria'smom]

His cousin got surgery this summer and needs help setting up her classroom. Her "kids" start the 10th. He goes to school on-line so he can do his school work at any time of day/anywhere. I'm not saying he wouldn't take his classes. His health is more important and their close relationship. I'm not sure helping her all day and doing his work at night for a week is to much stress. He's also going to get volunteer hours for his state scholarship. He also will be there for a week so his output of would be low as far as school work is concerned .