[BleakGeek]

I wish I was accepted and could socialize like a normal person. I feel like an outcast. I just feel so lonely. I don't know if I will ever have a friend. I know it is my fault. I need to beat the anxiety and fear. It has been so long I don't know how to interact with people anymore.

Sorry for the whining! It is hard to keep it bottled up. Thanks for listening!

[wildflowerchild25]

I used to feel like this all the time. Especially when I was a teenager. Even though I still had friends, I felt super lonely. As time has gone on, I have become more comfortable with myself. I still don't fit in to society but I am ok with it now. I hope you are able to get to place of acceptance for your uniqueness.

[Wander]

You don't need to apologise for needing to vent, that is one of the things this forum is for. We are here for you so no need to keep it bottled up. Loneliness is awful, I am sorry you are going through this. Maybe chatting on this forum regularly will help you hone your people skills then you can work up to meeting people IRL. There are meet-up groups on line that are based around common interests and you meet people locally. Just an idea. It helped me at a time when I was struggling socially. It is tough working up the courage to go to the meet-ups but once you're there the anxiety can settle down. I hope you find some rest from the loneliness and keep posting.

[Jensitive22]

Originally Posted by BleakGeek

I wish I was accepted and could socialize like a normal person. I feel like an outcast. I just feel so lonely. I don't know if I will ever have a friend. I know it is my fault. I need to beat the anxiety and fear. It has been so long I don't know how to interact with people anymore.

Sorry for the whining! It is hard to keep it bottled up. Thanks for listening!

I feel you BleakGeek, I struggle with fitting, as well. I always knew something was wrong with me, something was broken in me, because I have never felt comfortable and confident in my own skin. My peers, professionally and socially, seem to live their lives with such ease, and I struggle with terrible anxiety and feelings of inferiority. When I worked as a teacher, I often felt alone and detached walking down the halls, at staff meetings, at department meetings. Church was just as bad as I felt like I was doing Christianity wrong. Even now, my family are the only ones I feel whole and comfortable with. I don't know if this is a bipolar thing, an anxiety thing, or a little of both. I just know that it has been a source of great loneliness, and frustration as most people don't understand why I feel this way. They look at my accomplishments and don't understand why I don't feel good enough.

[pirilin]

Is it that important?. Maybe the less importance you pay to it, the better result.

[Spaceyspace]

I really feel this way a lot too, but I also wouldn't change anything about my likes and dislikes, the "cool" things about my personality, so I hope you feel the same way. Not sure of your gender, but for me I'm not like most females and that's a big part of me feeling odd.

I used to feel pretty lonely too, so I understand where you're coming from.

I think it's important not to let others dictate your happiness. Don't rely on them to make you happy.

Sure, friends can make you happy, but what happens if you lose all of your new friends? Then you'll be back to square one: you'll feel lonely and like an outcast again.

To make yourself truly happy, you need to find things that you like that don't involve other people. For example, do you have a favorite hobby? Maybe try out some new things you've never tried before. And you know what? That's a great way to make friends -- finding people who like the same things as you do. The anxiety and fear will probably go away too. You'll feel like a natural when you're preoccupied with your hobby, and you will be distracted from your anxious thoughts.

[~Christina]

I blunder into society and do as I please , IF someone doesn't like me ,,, that's okay .. There are others that will. I dislike a fair amount of people not due to a MI or whatever .. Mostly because they are shyt people

I know its hard.. But make sure your not holding yourself back just out of fear of what "might" happen or what someone might think.

[GoldenSnitch]

I think you should cut yourself some slack. This forum is here for support so don't feel bad about venting! And a lot of us here feel similar feelings of loneliness and not fitting in. It is not your fault. If this is something that is really important to you, maybe bring it up with your therapist and start working on getting better at socializing and feeling better about yourself. I've been working on similar issues with my therapist lately because I don't really have many healthy relationships but I think that a lot of it stems from my low self worth. Might be worth a try?

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[BleakGeek]

Thank you all for the kind words and encouragement! It lifts me up in these low times. You are all great people! God bless you all!

[scatterbrained04]

I can really relate to this post though I think each year I care less about what others think. The problem is I care what I think. My anxiety gets the best of me. No friends here either

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