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Jul 28, 2016, 10:13 AM
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My wife of 20 years told me awhile ago that she doe not think that she is in love with me any more. She is going through a serious crisis I can tell, she is not herself and repeatedly comments on how unhappy she is. It seems that she is blaming the unhappiness on me and my MH issues over the last several years.
We have been going to marriage counseling for the last few months but it does not seem to be helping her, she still questions if she loves me. I unfortunately still love her dearly and dont want to break up our family. I cannot live in limbo like this though, it is taking its toll on me. I told her yesterday that if she does not start seeing a therapist then I am going to leave. I cant tolerate the way that she has been treating me. I hate to do this, but if she does not get help then I see no future. So I have not slept in two days, and I am afraid that I am going to go off of the rails. I have taken my meds as prescribed but it has not had any effect on me. How the heck did I get to this point, we were solid for so many years. She has changed this year, she had plastic surgery(out of character for her). I am afraid that she is having an affair even though she said she is not, she has mentioned in counselling several times that she just wants to hook up with a doctor who will take care of her(she is a nurse). gahhhhhhh I am struggling.
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BP1 OCD General Anxiety Disorder Meds: Clonazapam 1mg 2x daily Lamictal 50mg zyprexa 5mg Prazosin 3mg for night terrors Best of all I am off of the opiate replacements finally, no more methadone Almost Famous: William: "Penny I need to get this interview and go home" Penny Lane : "Poof! you are home." |
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#2
Jul 28, 2016, 10:33 AM
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I'm so sorry, JPD. The plastic surgery does sound to me like she wants to make her life over. I suggest you talk to a therapist about your feelings and get support. Your life can start over, too!
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Jul 28, 2016, 10:51 AM
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 , yeah I have an "emergency" session with my T tomorrow am.
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BP1 OCD General Anxiety Disorder Meds: Clonazapam 1mg 2x daily Lamictal 50mg zyprexa 5mg Prazosin 3mg for night terrors Best of all I am off of the opiate replacements finally, no more methadone Almost Famous: William: "Penny I need to get this interview and go home" Penny Lane : "Poof! you are home." |
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Jul 28, 2016, 10:55 AM
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That sounds really awful. I'm so sorry you're going through this. Your wife must be having a crisis of some sort. I hope she will get some therapy to figure out how to make things work out with you.
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...Out of night and alarm Out of terrible dreams Reach me your hand! This is the meaning that we suffered in sleep: The white peace of the waking. ~Edna St. Vincent Millay, "Song of the Nations"~ Diagnoses: Bipolar 2, OCD, Chronic Worrywart  Meds: Lithium (reducing), Trileptal, Latuda, Risperdal, Klonopin and Xanax PRN |
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Jul 28, 2016, 11:11 AM
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So sorry your going through this, absolutely keep seeing therapist and post here as much as you need to, we are all here. HUGS
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Jul 28, 2016, 02:24 PM
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I'm so sorry, I have no words of advice but post freely.
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Dx: Me- SzA Husband- Bipolar 1 Daughter- mood disorder+ Comfortable broken and happy "So I don't know why I'm tongue tied At the wrong time when I need this."- P!nk My blog |
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Jul 28, 2016, 02:30 PM
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jpb4815, you need to take care of yourself first right now, and it sounds like you are doing so.
Whatever happens, I wish you a good life. |
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Jul 28, 2016, 04:30 PM
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So sorry to hear that you're going through this troubled time. Take gentle care of yourself. It's very hard when a marriage ends, I know. I've been there.
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Jul 28, 2016, 06:25 PM
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I'm thinking of you.
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Jul 29, 2016, 05:28 PM
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So I gave an ultimatum yesterday. Either she finds a therapist or I leave. She found one today. I am afraid to be hopeful. How do I radically accept this reality?
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BP1 OCD General Anxiety Disorder Meds: Clonazapam 1mg 2x daily Lamictal 50mg zyprexa 5mg Prazosin 3mg for night terrors Best of all I am off of the opiate replacements finally, no more methadone Almost Famous: William: "Penny I need to get this interview and go home" Penny Lane : "Poof! you are home." |
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Jul 29, 2016, 06:12 PM
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Sending you hugs.
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Wir sind was wir sind English We are what we are MDD w/psychotic features, BPD |
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Jul 29, 2016, 07:44 PM
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I think you have to take it one day at a time and accept that today she made a really positive step that sounds like she's not ready to give up. When does she meet the therapist?
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Bipolar 1, PTSD, GAD, OCD. Clozapine 250 mg, Emsam 12 mg/day patch, topamax 25 mg, ,Gabapentin 1600 mg & 100-2 PRN,. 2.5 mg clonazepam., 75 mg Seroquel and 12.5 mg PRNx2 daily |
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Jul 29, 2016, 09:05 PM
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Have you been to marriage counseling?
bizi I am sorry that you are going thru this struggle.
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lamictal 2x a day haldol 2x a day cogentin 2x a day klonipin , 1mg at night, fish oil coq10 multi vit,, vit c, at noon, tumeric, caffeine Remeron at night, zyprexa, requip2-4mg |
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Jul 30, 2016, 09:12 AM
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I'm so sorry you're going through this ((hugs))
My husband and I just separated as well and my MI had a lot to do with it unfortunately. As hard as it was I think it was necessary and I'm feeling much better now. If you need to talk feel free to send a pm! Sent from my iPhone using Tapatalk |
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