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Aug 16, 2016, 08:05 PM
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I've thought about getting into a relationship again, but I totally fail at relationships. I'm actually awful with trying to find a date in the first place. Same thing with finding friends.
I never dated in middle school (which is when I think kids start dating nowadays?) or in high school. Only ever had 1 date after that and the guy was way too clingy, so I broke up with him... Well, another guy tried to pursue me and asked me out via text message, but he was always greasy and sloppy looking, so I said no. Plus, he spent most of his time playing Pokemon on his gameboy. (I kinda felt bad about rejecting him because he was a nice guy and all... but definitely not my type!) When I was younger, some kids tried to bully me about my looks, I guess. I don't remember much of it, though... because I was like 10 or 11! But it's made me self critical of my looks sometimes, and it's somewhat put me off from dating. The other thing that puts me off from dating is having to tell someone about my BP. The thought of that just freaks me out, honestly. I mean, it's a total deal breaker for some people. Yes, it's true that people who don't like you because of your BP aren't worth your time, but that doesn't mean their words and feelings won't hurt you. If you don't count online friends, I have 0 friends in real life! (I know that a lot of you are in the same boat, however... so I'm sure that's nothing new for you guys.) How do I gain some self confidence? I can't even gain the confidence to make friends! Am I really that ugly or something that I can't make friends and can only attract creepy guys??? wtf. (Well, it might also be because I look like I'm 16!!!) But I'm also 25 and just transitioned into *real* adulthood (now that I finished school 1 year ago), so making friends at this stage in life is very different from making friends during the school years. Same with dating. I'm not used to it. |
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#2
Aug 16, 2016, 08:19 PM
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idk. I used to have no problem making friends and getting dates when I was younger. now in my 20s and everything seems harder. I just made two accounts online but I feel its impossible to meet someone from online its like pulling teeth. but cant give up. I have no suggestions. I know being in love is great for our mood and can also wreck havoc when breaking up. good luck
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Aug 16, 2016, 08:37 PM
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Im in a similar situation too you. Only difference is that im a guy and im 23. I've only been interested in dating for the past 3 years or so. I always seemed ti find girls my own age during high school to be a bit immature for me. During college I was dealing with school, my parents breaking up, constant anxiety, and my OCD. So you have more experience then me.
Im sure you'll find someone that see the bad in you, but will still want to be with you. Sent from my KYOCERA-E6560 using Tapatalk |
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Aug 16, 2016, 09:37 PM
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ARe there "meet up" groups in your area?
It is a way to meet people with similar interests. bizi
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Aug 17, 2016, 07:11 AM
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So I will have to agree with bizi, meet up groups are a great way to make friends. I think that I remember from previous posts that you are a software engineer like me. I have met some great people in our local javascript meetups. Not anybody I would date, but it could give you some confidence making friends and all.
Relationships are tough for us, I feel like I deal with emotions in a different way then others. Maybe that is just me. I am confident in who I am because I have some really great friends, and that is helpful. I don't think that I would be as self confident in my current state if I did not have some friends. I would say that your first step would be to get out and meet some people with common interests. You seem like down to earth person with a lot to offer, I bet that you will have no problems meeting people.
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Aug 17, 2016, 11:57 AM
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You're not ugly, blue. You just look orange and purple right now. lol
Seriously though, I have no dating advice at all. I haven't been on the dating scene in over ten years. I met my husband when I was nineteen and he was twenty. Ah, making friends is easy. Just ask Petro or Petri, or whatever the names are of the guys you work with, out for lunch. Especially make sure you ask that guy who has like seven kids with three different woman. lol (it is seven right?) Seriously, you're fun. You can make friends no problem.
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Aug 17, 2016, 08:26 PM
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I've just had a history of making bad friendships, so I always become nervous around people. Of course not ALL of my friendships have been bad, but I've had a lot of "friendships" where I've gotten totally f***ed over. These people who you think are your friends are actually using you and talking s*** behind your back. That kinda thing.
I guess I'm "too nice" to people and I unknowingly put myself in a situation to get taken advantage of. So it's like... I want friends, but then I don't want to have to deal with THAT again. It's happened in middle school, high school, and college. All different sets of "friends". Meh. I like the meetup idea... possibly going to some software related things like jpb suggested. But that's the only thing I can really think of. I don't really want to join the local cycling clubs because those clubs are aimed at road cycling, whereas I like mountain biking. (I find road cycling a bit boring and repetitive.) I just have no one to go mountain biking with. |
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Aug 17, 2016, 08:38 PM
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What made me so confident? Having sex with lots of men when I was single. Seriously. Made me feel sexy as h***. I was very hypomanic back then.
We need to have a bank where we can donate extra hypomania to each other. 
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Aug 17, 2016, 09:33 PM
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Try it really! It might work! good luck and keep us posted. bizi
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