[KitRacer]

I'm currently fighting with my wife in probably our worst fight yet. And that may be an overstatement because I said some pretty nasty stuff before I went into the hospital. But right now I'm actually worried. And it's not stopping me from being angry and wanting to yell at her and tell her what is in my head. I'm not even sure all of it is true or what I believe. She tells me she is hurt. Like I should stop. But I'm hurt too. She wants to be the one that tells me how I feel. What state I'm in. Like she can see every underlying thing that's going on. She wants me to document all this so she can evaluate it. Why the hell am I even here if she is the one who is going to tell me who I am. I'm not a synthetic husband. I do more around the house than her. I make more of the money than her. I am more stable! Yeah, I have a stable job, I work hard and do well, I am the one whose credit we used to buy our house. Im the one whose credit we use for anything. She has debt out the *** and she tells me that we need to save and how to be good with money and why I can't spend. Well no. That's not what she says she wants, she wants to know why I have emotions. What they are and if she needs to do something about them.

I'm just... I'm pissed off. I'm posting I. The middle of our online fight and I'm angry. This started last night not online. I want to buy a car. Not some sports car or unreasonable car. I want to buy a reliable family car. A Prius v. Used. With low miles. And she thinks it's too much because we will actually have a payment and she is scared of her job and I have to be able to provide for everyone.

I'm sure there is some here. But we actually have a therapy session today that won't be a walk in the park like normal.

[Victoria'smom]

I'm sorry maybe the therapist has to explain just because your bipolar doesn't invalidate your feelings and reasons behind those feelings.

[Acorn Oaktree]

therapy shouldn't always be a walk in the park. How the heck are you supposed to learn anything if everything is easy breezy all the time? Healing can only comes from conflict (IMHO), so if you want to get anywhere in your relationship to your wife, then you got to get down and dirty sometimes!

Money issues are tough, and they suck. Your post reminds me of the fights my husband and I have. He's always so quick to tell me how he makes the most money, and he does more of this, and more of that. The only difference in our storys is that I do not have any debt. I don't do debt. Hopefully you can talk about these issues with your wife and T at your session today. If you are legitamately doing more than her and feel you want her to make more or a contribution then she needs to know this and she needs to acknowledge this for you. If your feelings are unfounded then you need to realize this too.
Either way, it really sucks to be going through hard times with your partner and I hope y'all get something amazing from each other.
Be excellent to each other!