[boogiesmash]

So some of you know my birthday was last month and I had a tough time. I was going to go to my buddy's bar and drink and eat there. However leading up to my bday I text him and get no response. Finally my day arrives still no responses. So I get a little pissed and added to my depression.
Now about this guy, he has been there for me in the rough. Usually listens to me and has gotten me out of financial binds about four times. I'm not talking like a few hundred bucks this guy has lent me four, thousand on 3 different occasions and has never asked for it back.
Now I haven't heard from him in a while, sure he is ok he daily posts Facebook about work, so I text him. About four hours later I get a yo what's up I'm at our mutual friends bday. At this point I'm somewhat shocked, I'm jealous that he wasn't t there for mine, pissed haven't heard from him and feeling worthless cause hey I'm not good enough to hang out with.
I think I'm just venting off some steam but this feels somewhat out of character and I haven't felt paranoid since been on meds. Did I do something wrong? Am I not worth hanging out with anymore?

[MusicLover82]

People are weird. i'm dealing with a friend possibly being mad at me right now, so I understand feeling frustrated with people. I wouldn't take it personally, though. Everybody has some issue that makes them not be great friends sometimes. That's what it seems like to me. We're here for you. HUGS!!

[hopeless2015]

You are absolutely worth it and I think it's natural to feel the way your feeling, we all get that way at times. Like Music Lover said, we are here for you anytime

[zijax]

He might be avoiding you bc you borrow large amounts of money from him and don't offer to pay him back.

[gayleggg]

Money can come between friends even when they think it won't. Maybe that's it or maybe he's just been busy and neglectful. People get wrapped up in what's going on with them and sometimes forget the consequences to friendships. I would give him a second chance after all he's been there for you in the past.

[pirilin]

I would have gone and drink and have a good time. And indirecty tell him you weren't calling for money.

[Wild Coyote]

Maybe you can find a way to have a heart-to-heart conversation with your buddy? It's the only way to know what's going on for another person re: your mutual friendship.

My own friends would feel very "let down" if they'd lent me money I did not repay.

Maybe ask him to share a meal and a beer and have a chat?


WC

[boogiesmash]

You guys think it's the money? He told me to pay him when I get my life back in order. Said it didn't matter if it's years.

[Eddiesmom]

I have a friend client that has lent me money in tough times and never asked for it back it's not he money, I agree with the other post ask what happened "I thought we were getting together for my birthday" maybe your friend forgot? There could be a number of reasons but me personally I would have been hurt too, that's just me, I am an emotional person anyway! I am sorry you are going through this! I know it's hars��

[Wild Coyote]

Originally Posted by boogiesmash

You guys think it's the money? He told me to pay him when I get my life back in order. Said it didn't matter if it's years.

The only way for you to know what's going on for him is to have a warm, friendly chat with him.


WC

[raspberrytorte]

Can you tell him you were hurt he forgot your birthday?

Sorry to hear that happened.

Hugs, boogie.

[boogiesmash]

Originally Posted by raspberrytorte

Can you tell him you were hurt he forgot your birthday?

Sorry to hear that happened.

Hugs, boogie.

I always feel hurt on my bday. Worst day of the year for me.

[xRavenx]

I'm sorry to hear this....especially on your birthday, and it's bad enough struggling with BP on top of these types of issues. Actually, I am going through a general fear that this type of situation is going to happen around my birthday since it is less than a week away.

Your experience reminds me a little bit of a friend I have. He has been through a lot with me, and we have a special bond. However, I can't always rely on him since his life is rather crazy, there's been a time or two that sticks with me where there was no excuse for him not texting me or calling when we made plans. I felt very rejected.

Do you think that having a heart to heart with this friend can help? I did end up having a talk with the friend of mine, and he did make some improvements as far as communication goes, at least to the best of his ability. The experience stuck with me though, and I know I'll feel hurt if he doesn't text me or make an effort to follow through on the birthday plans we talked about. Sometimes I still feel afraid to reach out to him out of fear of rejection, although I feel completely comfortable when we do talk.

I feel for you and can relate to feeling hurt on my birthday too. (((hugs))) Hang in there. You are not worthless. I can understand why you would feel the way you do though.

[boogiesmash]

Originally Posted by xRavenx

I'm sorry to hear this....especially on your birthday, and it's bad enough struggling with BP on top of these types of issues. Actually, I am going through a general fear that this type of situation is going to happen around my birthday since it is less than a week away.

Your experience reminds me a little bit of a friend I have. He has been through a lot with me, and we have a special bond. However, I can't always rely on him since his life is rather crazy, there's been a time or two that sticks with me where there was no excuse for him not texting me or calling when we made plans. I felt very rejected.

Do you think that having a heart to heart with this friend can help? I did end up having a talk with the friend of mine, and he did make some improvements as far as communication goes, at least to the best of his ability. The experience stuck with me though, and I know I'll feel hurt if he doesn't text me or make an effort to follow through on the birthday plans we talked about. Sometimes I still feel afraid to reach out to him out of fear of rejection, although I feel completely comfortable when we do talk.

I feel for you and can relate to feeling hurt on my birthday too. (((hugs))) Hang in there. You are not worthless. I can understand why you would feel the way you do though.

I'd hang out with you on your bday.

[xRavenx]

Originally Posted by boogiesmash

I'd hang out with you on your bday.

Thank you. Same to you.