[bluemountains]

Hi All,

I've enjoyed reading lately with nothing to post, sorry, I haven't had any wonderful advice for those of you who have needed it.
I am doing pretty well with a few dings, which leads me to a couple of questions.

A little background-for those who don't know me, I've been around for several years, I am a teacher, and when I fall apart it usually leads to having a hard time putting the pieces back together....but right now I am doing okay.

This week I was verbally attacked by a coworker who was in a bad place accusing me of wanting to steal all of her materials. I had done nothing that I am aware of to lead her to come to this conclusion. My reaction was to yell at her-no cussing-and to let her know what I thought of her accusation. Unfortunately my temper also has been my downfall at times, although usually I try to run and hide.

FINALLY my question!!!! Do you find that a different kind of problem(s) tends to seek you out even when you are truly an innocent bystander? If so, do you contribute this to anything? Your demeanor? Past reactions? Your age? The fact that people know of your diagnosis? (In my case, they don't)

I am not well-liked by my boss, her words, so having to deal with an encounter that I did not start has shaken me.

Thanks everyone for your time!

Bluemountains

[Wild Coyote]

On occasion, I encounter a different type of a problem, with me being an innocent bystander. I attribute this to life and human nature.

Good luck resolving your interpersonal issue at work. Sorry this has happened to you.


WC

[~Christina]

Something seeking me out ? Not really , I feel its more MY reaction to situations that lead to often the same ______ and I am left to clean up the mess and bandaide myself back together

Hope everything blows over for you quickly

Good seeing you

Yes, people have sought me out and I attribute it to human nature as WC has said. The people who have done this were genuinely not nice people and the kind that made fun of everyone the moment they were out of ear shot. Some people are just like that and my friend says it probably comes from a predator or prey perspective. If only we had mind reading devises, we could figure all this out more concretely. I'm sorry your boss doesn't like you, not everyone will unfortunately. It's probably her loss more than yours unless you gave her a good reason or something. It takes more energy to hate and it doesn't feel very good so remember that. I wish I could say to just not care what other people think but unless you're a sociopath which it doesn't sound like you are, you won't be able to do that. Good luck and I'm sorry you're dealing with this.

[bluemountains]

Thanks for the input. I will get over this one since I truly know that I was the victim, and I can't fix what I didn't break.

Anyway, I think that I will continue to catch the occasional odd problem due to who I am, the group of people I happen to have to spend each day with, the fact that my boss doesn't like me, giving those who choose to take the bullying route the power to do so.

I don't think I am unique because I have bipolar. I think that many people deal with situations like mine or even ones that are much tougher for whatever reason. I came upon this later because I just happen to have been blessed with many positive factors in my younger years that made dealing with bipolar much easier and kept me from being a target.

When I can observe this instead of being the victim it is actually quite interesting.

Bluemountains