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Sep 01, 2017, 11:22 PM
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This week I learned more about self esteem and ways to boost it. I also spoke in group about my bed habit and how others got over it. Today I spoke about the biggest trauma I've had. This was when my "friend" screwed me over for my dream job by saying I sexually harassed her. I was hesitant to speak about that because I had to say what my dream job was and my job for past 13 years. In the group everyone offered me variations of what I could do, or saying sorry but maybe it wasn't meant to be. The therapist told me to think of it as one door closes but another may open, don't get caught in the cycle of trying to open the one that is closed. All in all I think it was a good session.
Next week I am going to continue this discussion and speak of resentment and forgiveness. I hate this girl. Whenever we work you can feel the tension. I don't wish her physical harm but I want her to know the pain she causes me. My former sense of "honor" , which was destroyed with this, wants me to lay it all out and have her think what a shitt& person she is. She has no shame of what she did and continues along like nothing has happened. I get left out of my coworkers after work outings or potlucks at work. And it makes me feel like sh it. I know this resentment isn't healthy, but at the moment it's all I know. A friend told me this will eat me alive, but for the past five years, alongside this depression, anxiety and anger I don't know how I should be thinking in a healthier way. Next week should be big. Any thoughts on how to pass resentment?
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Sep 02, 2017, 08:09 AM
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I had a lot of resentment towards my mom for how she treated me when I was a child. I eventually (5 years into adulthood) realized that there was no point in holding on to it. I never talked about it with her, I just....I don't know. I wish I could remember how I let it go. It sucks holding onto resentment, especially when the other party isn't bothered by their actions. I hope you find a solution. I would continue talking about it in your group and in individual therapy. They may be able to offer solutions to letting go.
I think you're doing a great job and I'm so happy you made this decision!
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Of course it is happening inside your head. But why on earth should that mean that it is not real? -Albus Dumbledore That’s life. If nothing else, that is life. It’s real. Sometimes it f—-ing hurts. But it’s sort of all we have. -Garden State |
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Sep 02, 2017, 10:05 AM
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Sounds like iop is going good for you. I'm so happy for you and you should be proud of yourself, your doing great work! Hugs!!
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#4
Sep 02, 2017, 10:30 PM
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Bump. Really would like to get insight with anyone else about resentment. Need to learn how to let it go.
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Sep 03, 2017, 07:22 AM
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In a lot of situations, it helps me to think of people's unkind words and actions as bi-products of that person's own mental issues. Helps me to let things go a little bit.
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Sep 03, 2017, 08:39 AM
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Of course it is happening inside your head. But why on earth should that mean that it is not real? -Albus Dumbledore That’s life. If nothing else, that is life. It’s real. Sometimes it f—-ing hurts. But it’s sort of all we have. -Garden State |
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Sep 04, 2017, 01:13 PM
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One of the best things my T taught me was
How many cans do you want to kick down the road ? It really made me think about what problems/feelings I want to hold on to , needless to say I left lots behind me . Anyway that helped me a lot and still does , I have a HUGE can right now that I am in a huge struggle with . So it can take time , but it works Glad IOP is helping
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Sep 04, 2017, 01:18 PM
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Thank you for the tip. I also thought of was moby **** and how it left him waste his own life hunting it down. I guess what I'm asking is how do I forgive her and let it go, without revenge or justice or karma kicking in.
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Sep 04, 2017, 04:58 PM
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Quote:
Im currently kicking more cans down than I have ever in my life and sadly adding them myself by making bad choices. |
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Sep 04, 2017, 05:08 PM
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I'm glad IOP is going well for you.
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Sep 04, 2017, 08:16 PM
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I'm glad IOP is helping you and thanks for this thread, it made me think
 
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