[Fuzzybear]

I don't "fit in" - I can't even take the seroquel prescribed that was supposed to "make me normal"

I'm sorry about the "pointless" post.

I do sometimes think "normal" is over rated

I have one loving family member (likely Aspergers traits) and I'm grateful for him

I have to be silent for the rest of the evening. I've already "drained" him (my words, or words of the maternal unit, I'm an "emotional drain" )

The rest? Part of my life work is "moving on" from being The Scapegoat

Grrrrrrrrrrrr

[SorryShaped]

Yes. All of this. My aspies both are true love possessors. I've been that goat far too long myself

[Guiness187055]

None of us are normal

[hopeless2015]

Big hugs fuzzy!!!

[SorryShaped]

Originally Posted by Guiness187055

None of us are normal

What is the normal? It's a composite of desirable traits assumed to be the wanted common. I don't want to be that. I want to be free and feel it. Label me abnormal every time please.

I'm not normal either....nobody is. Does normal mean average? Typical? Common? To be exactly average statistically is the least common of all. Normal does not exist.

I'm sorry your family used you as a scapegoat. I'm sorry you are sensitive to meds. I hope you find something helpful soon. (((Fuzzy)))

[wonderluster]

Don't worry about fitting in with the "normal" people.
The normal people only pretend to fit in.

The "real" people cannot pretend to fit in because...you guessed it:
They are real!

Real people have problems because there are many more normal people than real people on the Earth at this time. This is what makes the real people feel abnormal and bad about themselves.

Many real people come to understand that they do not have to fit in with the normals and go into the world and do amazing things. It is the real people who have changed the world for the better in many ways throughout history.

The desire to "fit in" is just a fear of being different.
The truth is that we are all different. We all have different ways of expressing ourselves and all ways are good.

As more and more real people stop feeling bad about themselves and get out into the World, they will be a support to other real people and also help influence the normal people to be real.

[WildcatVet]

*Normal* according to whom? Ask 1,000,000 people and you'll get 1,000,000 different answers.

[~Christina]

Normal is a setting on a dryer

((((((((( hugs )))))))))

[SorryShaped]

Originally Posted by ~Christina

Normal is a setting on a dryer

((((((((( hugs )))))))))

And that "normal" always takes longer to get the same job done

[bluemountains]

I'm sorry, Fuzzy because I experience the same as you.
((((Fuzzy))))

Bluemountains

[UpDownAround]

I'm not sure I want to be normal, but I do want to be regular...

[Row Jimmy]

You're in good company, Sister Fuzzybear.

[Row Jimmy]

Originally Posted by ~Christina

Normal is a setting on a dryer

((((((((( hugs )))))))))

That's odd......I just looked at the dial on my dryer and I don't see that setting. I only see the following -

"Your clothes will still be wet"
"Sock sucker"
"Lint adder"
"Run one more time"
"Destroy gentle fabrics"

[Shazerac]

Originally Posted by Row Jimmy

That's odd......I just looked at the dial on my dryer and I don't see that setting. I only see the following -

"Your clothes will still be wet"
"Sock sucker"
"Lint adder"
"Run one more time"
"Destroy gentle fabrics"

Wow! You have the same dryer I have

[Tucson]

I never have been normal. This is one thing I know for sure.

@Row Jimmy: My dryer is simular to yours. For example, I purchased a half a dozen socks not too long ago. Now I can only find one matching pair.

[WildcatVet]

I don't want to be normal. I want to be unique...just like everybody else. That's a joke, folks....

Originally Posted by Fuzzybear

I don't "fit in" - I can't even take the seroquel prescribed that was supposed to "make me normal"

I'm sorry about the "pointless" post.

I do sometimes think "normal" is over rated

I have one loving family member (likely Aspergers traits) and I'm grateful for him

I have to be silent for the rest of the evening. I've already "drained" him (my words, or words of the maternal unit, I'm an "emotional drain" )

The rest? Part of my life work is "moving on" from being The Scapegoat

Grrrrrrrrrrrr

Normal? I don’t know any normal people.

Seroquel doesn’t make me normal but it calms me and I don’t have conversations with dead people often.

The small dose of Effexor that I take might stay bipolar MDD, but, christ, normal?

My opinion only: I think that we of the not-quite-right (or, in this highly charged political atmosphere, not-quite-left if you prefer) have an ideal, of sorts, that we want to believe. We want to believe that there exists a large group - a group that we may never join - of shiny-happy-people living in Seattle drinking fine coffees, working as artisans, making good money, admired by their peers, giving back to their community and to the larger world, in long-lasting relationships and leading fulfilling lives. And they’re normal.

But they aren’t; those people don’t exist.

Meh; I wouldn’t worry about ‘normal,’ if I were you. I tried it once for a couple of months and it drove me crazy.

You’re so lucky to have a loving family member nearby! I think that’s great.

Ya know, I believe that some people ARE on a horribly crooked, brambled and treacherous path. The majority of people walk those paths. We have no path - we stumble through the jungle and encounter deadly snakes and beautiful waterfalls. And we endure and survive because we really do value life and living.

I’m sorry that you’re having a rough time just now. I wish that I had some wise advice to give but all that I have to offer is empathy: as in, yeah, I know those feelings, too.

Peace.

[SorryShaped]

Back roads and country lanes are always more scenic than the highways. Besides, tree tunnels!

[bizi]

hugs to you today
(((((HUGS))))
bizi

[~Christina]

Originally Posted by Row Jimmy

That's odd......I just looked at the dial on my dryer and I don't see that setting. I only see the following -


"Your clothes will still be wet"

"Sock sucker"

"Lint adder"

"Run one more time"

"Destroy gentle fabrics"

lol I hear that !

[WildcatVet]

...and the dreaded "Leave wrinkles where there were none before".

[SorryShaped]

Originally Posted by WildcatVet

...and the dreaded "Leave wrinkles where there were none before".

Lol. This thread became fun. I hope the seriousness of the op isn't covered over. But sometimes we really need a bit of levity

[5150DirtDiva]

"Normal" is overrated. Plus everyone has something that they are struggling with.

I've been thinking about you Fuzzy.....and thinking about this thread and all the cliche answers including mine. I understand what it's like to not fit in. No, not everyone has problems with this. Everyone has problems for sure but not being able to function around people is a horrible problem to have. People make me sick....literally physically sick. Everyone likes to think they are different.....a special snowflake and all that. Well not me.....I just want to fit in. I've tried so many times but it's always a nightmare. I make a friend or decide to trust someone and they screw me over cause that was their plan all along. I want to fit in so badly......to be normal and not feel so sick around people. But we don't get what we want and maybe I'm just not meant for this world. I'm stuck here though so I have to accept it. And people don't get it....they just don't. They say "we all have problems". As they stroll along the streets being happy to be around people, excited to go places where people will be.....and they expect me to be happy and excited about these things when all they do is make me feel like I will pass out, vomit or both.

Normal may not exist but I'd take it .....I understand the theory behind it and what it represents to those of us who suffer so badly with people. Sorry to be negative but this is how I feel.