and it's the first time that anyone has moved in next door (yes, I've been lucky to live where the places next to me are vacant)

well today their is a woman called rachel moving in next door, and I am absolutely terrified.

I know she probably won't bother me, and she probably won't even see me that often,

but grrrrr!. I just want to go out their and tell her to (in nice terms) buzz off and find somewhere else to live.

I know I probably won't, because I'm too scared to even say hi to her, but how do I handle this..

their's moving, sure, but I just moved after I got evicted from that other place.. do I really want to be thinking about that so soon?
having someone next door terrifies me

really it does, and I've locked myself away and I feel trapped

help.....?

please...?

Maybe she's really nice and polite. My apartment neighbors don't bother me at all, besides the idiots down the hallway who piss everyone off. But they're down the hallway, not next to me.

Before you do anything, I think you should give her a chance and try to practice grounding skills. Maybe she's just as uncomfortable/afraid as you are.

[SorryShaped]

If you run into her, say "hi" and be nice. You can't honestly expect to have the building by renting one place. She's probably a very nice person. After all, the owners rented to you.

If you truly don't want to socialize with your neighbor, she'll get the drift. However, even if you don't wish to be good friends, knowing her well enough to cooperate in some ways (if needed) can be helpful.

Change can be hard. I understand. However you should consider the possibility that this will be an amazing change. You never know where you will make your next good friend. The choice is yours. Hide and never know or take the leap and say hello. It is okay to be scared, but I believe in you. You are going to be okay.

She’s going to look out for you.

If something is wrong, she will hear you.

You’ll be safer this way.

Make some cupcakes (if you like to do that) and give one to her.

Maybe leave a hello note by her door.

[hopeless2015]

I'm sorry this is upsetting you. Sending hugs. If you meet by chance in the hallway it's your choice to say hi or not. She'll get the hint either way

[cool09]

I freak out about neighbors, as well. All I've gotten is negative feedback from them and my landlord spread the word that I don't talk much and I'm on disability. I've learned to live with it. What's the worst that can happen?

Here is another thought - I reduce my fear of things if I learn about it.

Maybe you can call the landlord and obtain some information about this person? It might make you feel better.

Maybe you can look at her and draw some positive pictures of her being nice to children and other people.

[Unrigged64072835]

I know it's hard to have neighbors when you haven't been around them before. Hope Rachel is nice and you two can at least tolerate each other.

I've been locked in my room all evening.

probably not healthy- not healthy at all, but that's how it's been for now.

not even got a drink in 3 hours 21 minits

[SorryShaped]

I think you should give Rachel a chance. Maybe you need both a friend?