[SorryShaped]

I was made one of two liasons/representatives for my floor in my new apartment building at the meeting I showed up for last weekend. I told her then not to give me any responsibility because I'm not able to handle it and it will not go well. She did it anyway. I don't want it and plan to do a real half-assed job of it, if any of it at all, so she will hopefully take it away. I don't want this and I'm super new here, like the newest one in the building. Why would she throw this on me? She needs the others and me to help plan things, which I'm terrible at because I overthink everything, and remind people of the building meetings. The hell? I only went to one in three weeks. I knew the other three were scheduled but didn't go because I don't want to. The third one I missed was rescheduled to the weekend and she lured me in to that one with coffee and donuts but my sister was supposed to call me as soon as it started, -not prior planned but prior plans to help sister-, and I knew I'd have an out. Sister didn't call and I stayed for the meeting and had this pushed on me. Why do people think of me to do things like this? This isn't the first time I've had things just pushed on me in life and they NEVER went well.
I guess I'm venting but I don't know what to do properly but I'm not enjoying the idea of this. Getting out of things through disappointing others sucks but it's my only tool for this.

Maybe you're a perfectionist and given the circumstances, you feel better when the decisions are made by you at your leisure without the unnecessary anxiety.

Or at least that's how it played out in my head...

[SorryShaped]

No, I pretty much know I'll fork it up royally and people will get mad at me and I'll let them all down. Story of my life

[Wild Coyote]

Why not go to "her" and just say thanks, but no thanks?


WC

[SorryShaped]

Originally Posted by Wild Coyote

Why not go to "her" and just say thanks, but no thanks?


WC

I did that in the meeting. She wouldn't take a "no thanks." Maybe she wants me to mess up and get kicked out or something? These places are almost impossible to get in, being they're the most affordable public housing and have security and are downtown. A regular apartment here would be $700/month. I pay a fraction of that

[Wild Coyote]

If I really did not want to take on the task, I wouldn't. I'd see her and reiterate my "no" answer... and then just would not do it.

It seems like she is way over the line, as you describe how this happened.

I'm sorry this has happened to you. Now you know why people miss the meetings! Lol!


WC

[SorryShaped]

I asked my friend in the building and she said that she never goes to the meetings because she doesn't want to deal with this stuff. I don't blame her.
I will be finding reasons not to do any of what I'm asked to do, after telling her no again in person. Maybe just a flat, "I said initially I didn't want to do this. That is still the case. You'll have to find someone else. Sorry."

[Wild Coyote]

Originally Posted by SorryShaped

I asked my friend in the building and she said that she never goes to the meetings because she doesn't want to deal with this stuff. I don't blame her.
I will be finding reasons not to do any of what I'm asked to do, after telling her no again in person. Maybe just a flat, "I said initially I didn't want to do this. That is still the case. You'll have to find someone else. Sorry."

Sounds good!


WC

[Shazerac]

Just tell her NO. It’s not good for your self esteem to do it and then do a poor job hoping she won’t ask again. that’s kind of passive aggressive.

[SorryShaped]

I'll just skip meetings, like all of them, from here on. Donuts are bad for me anyway. She'll not lure me back in with that evil sweet deliciousness.