A very good friend blabbed to a co-worker about my admission and diagnosis.

You’re not being irrational in my opinion. Betrayal is a real and valid emotion. It’s also an intense emotion. You’re justified in giving yourself space and being upset. She definitely made a mistake. I think she probably needs to know what she did. She clearly doesn’t see the issue. Not having bipolar makes it very difficult to understand how PERSONAL bipolar disorder can be. If I were in your shoes, I’d say something along the lines of, “I get it may not seem like a big deal, but I’m haveing a REALLY hard time dealing with the fact that you told [so-and-so] something that’s so personal and sensitive to me. I’m not mad, it just hurt me. But I know you didn’t mean to upset me, and I will get over it. I’m working on it.”
Maybe that will provide some needed openness and start some productive and supportive communication. Also, I bet you NEED to get it off your chest. You’d likely feel much better and be able to sincerely forgive her.

Hopefully your coworker keeps it under wraps. *Hugs*

Oh, wow. Well let me tell you that her response was definitely NOT helpful from my point of view! YOU ARE NOT WRONG FEELING HOW YOU DO. You opened up to her and her response seemed cold.
You are right to expect an apology, given your friendship and history.

It sounds like all you can do at this point is make the decision to put it behind you, and work on doing so. Moving on from this will likely mean you have to accept that you’re not getting an apology. Her point of view is clearly different from yours. It’s a bummer, but it is what it is. Take it as a lesson learned for future reference. Be selective with what you open up to her about.
This whole thing alone isn’t worth throwing away a friendship over, so definitely remain open to getting it back on track.
Meanwhile, YOU ARE ENTITLED to think and feel everythaing that you’re thinking and feeling. I would certainly feel the exact same!

I think you did great !!!! Good for you

——big topic here. Your friend blew it big time. This was just plain ignorant. Sure we would all be tempted to tell this. How old is the friend? If she is young and really naive and a bff, have a long talk and consider forgiving her. Would she be likely to repeat a mistake? Would u feel safe around her? Stigma is so dangerous because there are so many variations of our disease like addictions that people do naturally generalize about us so they can keep their eyes open when they don’t know us well. If you forgive her don’t have her around people who shouldn’t know things, anything about you. Stigma is worse now because of all the mass shootings. Sorry. I have been betrayed by friends in other ways. Once they do it they are probably not to be trusted.

You are not wrong to feel like you do. Your friend refuses to respect you. It was your personal, private information that you do not want gossiped. The coworker did not have any ‘right to know’, your friend is saying her judgment is more important to her than respecting your privacy and wishes.