[Fuzzybear]

“Have you ever crossed the sea
Have you ever touched a rainbow..
This is the time.. to be free..
It’s never too late
You’ve got to follow your heart
Life brings me down :-(

How do you respond when people, friends or others, make wrong assumptions and give you no option to reply. This has happened to me many times, over decades. Especially from healthcare providers.. being labelled and then shut down, and their labels aren’t easy to throw away (from the “providers”)

It’s cold and dark in here sometimes, trying not to become “the bad object” for anyone... not anyone here.. but that has happened to me in therapy, in real life.. it didn’t really help my mood, anxiety, trust issues

I’ve learnt to take time to respond, to give important people thought and Care (too many haven’t given me thought, respect or care ) especially to emails (I don’t usually do emails anyway) but even that is “wrong” sometimes

I still haven’t found a “good” therapist, re my last post.

And I am looking, as best as I can.. although I do not wish to be told “there is very little we can do”

I know that is a lie.. but that won’t stop them (irl) from lying to me and fobbing me off

A new scary symptom (not MI) ... plenty to “put up with”

I might have to get it checked out next week it isn’t urgent (but it’s scary, and I hate talking about stuff like that. I guess I’m trying to give some context to this post

Just having a “whine” / rant

(Not about anyone on pc)

(((((Fuzzy)))))

[KYWoman]

FuzzyBear, Something I've learned this year about assumptions: when you assUme anything about me, you make an *** out of U and me. The first time I heard this, I decided to keep that thought for ammunition for all those who make incorrect assumptions about me. It does help, especially when I get to explain it to one who assumes incorrectly.

Keep searching for a therapist you trust. Like anything, there are good ones and bad ones.

[~Christina]

Just a question . Do you talk to them in “ bear talk” or second person ?

If so that might be the reason for not clicking.

Just trying to help you out

[Blueberrybook]

I hope you start doing better soon.

I have lately realized I make a lot of assumptions (especially regarding my daughter) based off my own childhood and my responses (or what I wished could have been my childhood responses) to similar events.

I've had T's make assumptions not even knowing me beyond the fact that I have an ED, and it's nope, don't want to work with you. On Seroquel? Come back once your pdoc adjusts your meds. You've had how many therapists in the past...I have to question that (didn't make an appt. with that one either)...? So even the T's are making assumptions now and this is upon a telephone call or first appiontment. They don't know me at all.

And don't get me started on family and assumptions.

[Fuzzybear]

Yep. Even a phone line, where I have to be human.. they make massive assumptions. Some of them. And depending on what I share, and don’t share. And I believe the few I spoke to did care and were trying their best to be supportive