[boogiesmash]

I don’t think anyone thinks of me as a priority. And it is breaking me.

[Wild Coyote]

I am sorry you are feeling unimportant.

It really sounds like depression talking. Have you kept up with your DBT skills?

Do you prioritize people in your life?
Prioritizing people often has a reciprocating component.

I know the holidays are stressful and very challenging for many of us. It's wise to fully practice any/all coping skills.

Keep reaching out!

WC

[bizi]

I am sorry you feel that way.
(((((HUGS)))))
bizi

[boogiesmash]

Originally Posted by Wild Coyote

I am sorry you are feeling unimportant.

It really sounds like depression talking. Have you kept up with your DBT skills?

Do you prioritize people in your life?
Prioritizing people often has a reciprocating component.

I know the holidays are stressful and very challenging for many of us. It's wise to fully practice any/all coping skills.

Keep reaching out!

WC

I do prioritize people. But always feel that the feeling is never reciprocated. No one goes out of their way to do something. And if you bring it up I feel worse for them trying to do it that I am still feeling s hitty cause they couldn’t think of me.

[~Christina]

I wish I had some fantastic advice but I know how your feeling and it sucks.

[jaysmotogp]

Originally Posted by boogiesmash

I don’t think anyone thinks of me as a priority. And it is breaking me.

I know how you feel, sorry for that.
Not always, but many times later i found out it was just my perception as distorted by depressive episodes. If its possible that its not reality, try to remind yourself of that

[BipolaRNurse]

The one person I could always count on to make me a priority was my husband. Now that he's gone, I'm nobody's Number One and it's really hard to get used to, so you have my sympathies. It seems like everyone in my life has other more important things (and people) on their minds, so I just do my best to accept things as they are and try to be happy that I at least WAS someone's top priority. Hugs to you.

I can relate, and I'm sorry you're feeling that way, boogie.

But it also occurs to me that maybe we really should be our own priority instead of waiting on someone else to do it. It's kind of like "waiting for the knight in shining armour to swoop down and save us". Not the healthiest outlook and sure to create misery. There's a reason it's that way in fairy tales. Because they're fairy tales. I can assure you that having a partner is no guarantee of being a priority. In fact, there is no worse feeling than being in a relationship and realizing you are not the priority anyway.

So maybe try to make yourself your priority and aim to be the best you you can be? Build confidence. People are attracted to that and maybe that will help you find more connection?

Just a thought. Like I said, I'm no one's priority, for sure, but I try not to dwell on it, because it tends to spiral. I'm really working with my own advice here. It's going alright, which is why I wanted to share it with you.

[MickeyCheeky]

((((boogiesmash)))) I'm so sorry you're struggling. I know how that feels. But remember that you are the Numer One priority... for yourself. Also remember that we care about you here

[~Christina]

Are you feeling any better ?

[tecomsin]

Originally Posted by Innerzone

In fact, there is no worse feeling than being in a relationship and realizing you are not the priority anyway.

^THIS^

Not being a priority feels like the story of my life, but it bothers me less than it used to. I'm not in a relationship now and that makes it easier to cope with this feeling.

[boogiesmash]

Originally Posted by ~Christina

Are you feeling any better ?

Better than my breakdown, but I’m still mildly down about it. Thanks for asking.

[~Christina]

Originally Posted by boogiesmash

Better than my breakdown, but I’m still mildly down about it. Thanks for asking.

Hope your feeling better soon. Do you have something to look forward too ??? I need that no matter how small it is. Yesterday was watch a dvd I haven’t seen in ages.

Small stuff matters for sure.

[pirilin]

I could be wrong, however, I think life has a pecking order.
Whereas the children are the priority.
The spouse is never family. Here today, gone tomorrow.

I was the priority of my Mother by the simple fact that I was her only child.
I don't want to be nobody's priority. And my only priority is myself.
That makes all of us even.

Cheers.

[pirilin]

Happiness comes from within.
Is not dependant on whatever someone think or does.