[HALLIEBETH87]

So I admitted to my therapist I feel like I’ll die a lonely virgin. I told him how lonely I am. We talked about online dating and how I have tk search and that someone isn’t gonna just drop out of the sky. I am a 32 virgin woman. I am overweight. I feel like no one wants me.

Then last night I saw an old high school classmate on my dating app. I added him
On Facebook and we started chatting.

He asked to meet up with me. We’re going for coffee
On Sunday

[fern46]

This is exciting! Even if it just ends up as coffee with a friend, you put yourself out there. How very brave of you. I hope it works out to be a nice time.

[MickeyCheeky]

Wish you good luck, HALLIEBETH87!! I hope you'll have fun! Yes, I COMPLETELY agree with the wise fern46. Even if it's just friendly chat, it will do you good. Also, don't give up hope! I'm SURE you'll find the right person for you sooner or later, although you have to look for him first of course! Still, good on you for putting yourself out there! You're REALLY Brave! It is NOT easy to do those things when we're struggling. Kudos to you for trying your BEST! BE PROUD OF YOURSELF FOR THAT! CONGRATULATIONS! Be proud of yourself! Wishing you the BEST of luck with that ex-classmate! Sending many safe, warm hugs to BOTH you and him, HALLIEBETH87, your Family, your Friends and ALL of your Loved Ones!!

[SorryShaped]

Great! I think you'll have fun. I haven't personally dated in a while, like last year.

[LadyShadow]

Good for you!!

Remember relationships, (even friendships) take time to grow.

The best thing would be to go into it not expecting anything, and just enjoy your time with him.

I hope it goes well!!

[~Christina]

You are a beautiful woman inside and yes out too!

Your smile just lights up the room. Anyone would be lucky to spend time with you on any level !

[HALLIEBETH87]

I don’t have any real expectations. We’re just meeting for coffee and to catch up. I was surprised he asked.

[Wild Coyote]

I hope you have a special time together!
I agree with fern: just put yourself out there!

I also think it's important to think about the qualities you prefer in a partner, in general.
Maybe write the qualities down. With this type of clarity, you are less likely to get caught up with someone who does not meet your expectations.
I once had a very wise older man tell me: Do not ever marry anyone who has different values from you. You will forever be unhappy with your marriage.
I have found, in life, the older man had given very sound advice.

Have FUN!!!

[HALLIEBETH87]

Well, our coffee “date” went well! He’s still as quiet as I remember him from high school but I think he’s cute. We had good conversation none the less.

I think I kinda like him!

[SorryShaped]

That's great! You're really a great person and I think you deserve happiness

[Marielisa2]

Good for you. I’m glad you had a good time. I myself haven’t dated in 10 years

[fern46]

Great update! I'm so happy to hear it went well. Hopefully it will work out for you to meet up again.

YAY!!

I'm glad you had a nice time!

[HALLIEBETH87]

Well I asked if he wants to hang out again and he said not really bc we have such different interests. He’s a computer gamer and I’m
Not.

I feel rejected.

[fern46]

That stinks. Sorry it didn't work out Halliebeth. At least you sort of ripped the band aid off of dating and got out there. Maybe there will be someone who is a better fit in the near future.

I'm sorry it didn't happen with that guy. Just keep looking.

My husband told me his old friend used to go to singles events (in person events). That's always an option. His friend met his wife through one. I also have a couple friends who did eventually meet their husbands through online dating.

I don't know you that well, but I can say that being a bit of a flirt can definitely attract guys. It doesn't have to be sexual flirtation. In fact, it's better to just seem very interested and exuberant -- unless you want to flirt sexually to get instant sex. Please try to be as self-confident as possible. Self-confidence is attractive. Being overweight definitely does NOT have to be an issue. I'm sure you have things you really like/love and feel strongly about. Let that shine. Be sure to ask questions that make the guy feel good about himself, too. I'm married (20+ years), but I still enjoy innocent flirting.

[SorryShaped]

I have had a friend/crush thing on you for a very long time. If I find value, it's there. You'll easily move on. I play games too, but mostly vintage stuff and usually by myself

[HALLIEBETH87]

Originally Posted by SorryShaped

I have had a friend/crush thing on you for a very long time. If I find value, it's there. You'll easily move on. I play games too, but mostly vintage stuff and usually by myself

I am
Glad we are friends

[MickeyCheeky]

Sorry it didn't work out! Sometimes it can happen! Keep looking. At least he was honest and told you from the start, although I'm not sure how he worded it exactly. It's not your fault things haven't worked out. Keep looking if you wish. You'll find the right person eventually. I'm SURE of that. At the very least, this experience was helpful for you to get out there and start dating again. Keep it in your baggage! Experience is ALWAYS useful one way or another in my opinion. We're here for you and we'll ALWAYS stick by your side no matter what! Remember that you can ALWAYS PM me and I'm sure ALL the others will gladly help as well! We're FRIENDS of yours! THAT'S A PROMISE! Sending many safe, warm hugs to you, @HALLIEBETH87, and ALL of your Loved Ones!

[BipolaRNurse]

I haven't dated in almost 40 years. I wouldn't know how to conduct myself, so I just don't. Things have changed a great deal since I was last on the market. You have my sympathies, friend.