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Old Nov 04, 2019, 10:03 AM
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I found an interesting article right here on Psych Central that discusses the subject mentioned topic. It's at Perfectionism, Anxiety & Bipolar Disorder | Bipolar Laid Bare The article sites different categories of perfectionism, including:

* Self-oriented perfectionism (but only in regards to some things about or done by oneself, but not requiring perfection from others)

* Self-oriented perfectionism (about everything done by or about oneself, but not of others)

* Other-oriented (when one demands perfection from others, but not oneself)

* Universal (when one demands perfection from others AND oneself) - "Universal' is my term for this.

* Socially-prescribed ("...concerned with how others judge them. They perceive high standards set by those around them and strive to meet those expectations.")

The article mentions a higher incidence of some form(s) of perfectionism in people with bipolar disorder. It also mentions the tendency to have related anxiety disorder(s), such as general anxiety disorder or OCD, and how they exacerbate or spark bipolar episodes in those with bipolar disorder.
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I can definitely relate to some of this. In my case, I fit the category of "Self-oriented, but only about some things, not all." However, the things I strive for perfection in doing can cause unhealthy behaviors/outcomes. The striving itself can be immensely stressful. The stress is often a trigger for my episodes. I have had to abandon the idea of ever returning to my previous job. I've also had to either stop or process other things with my therapist.
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The article also includes tips on how to control anxiety-inducing perfectionism. Check it out, if interested.

Are you a perfectionist in any way? If so, which type?

Do you have any suggestions to add to the articles tips?
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Old Nov 04, 2019, 02:28 PM
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How fascinating!

I love these educational posts you do with/for us! They are always quite interesting!
I will be back later to read more. I am on a break at the moment! I am trying hard to meet my goals today!
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Old Nov 04, 2019, 02:53 PM
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For me it would be self-oriented, but only about some things. For example I'm a perfectionist with my artwork and have a bad habit of being overly critical towards it, I'm working on just accepting that the more I practice the better I get, and every piece of art is a learning opportunity.

I'm also a socially prescribed perfectionist, but I think that's just related to my generalized anxiety disorder and social anxiety, I'm always afraid people are thinking the worst about me. I've always been somewhat of an awkward person socially and just in general and I feel like people can always tell and think I'm weird
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Old Nov 04, 2019, 03:13 PM
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I think i am perfectionist in some way it can be self oriented or socially prescibed .i can't decided because of it i can do nothing i am jobless now but when i was working i did not like what i have done in my job i thought they were thinking about me unsuccessful ,not enought now i think i am a silly person sorry for my english it is not my native
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Old Nov 04, 2019, 05:22 PM
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I can relate to BlueBird here. Self-directed regarding some things. Also socially prescribed. I HATE to make mistakes, thinking I'll be fired at any given moment no matter how well things are otherwise going.

I definitely don't expect perfectionism from others. I find that an obnoxious trait, actually. Way I see it, my hang ups are MY problem, not someone else's.
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Old Nov 04, 2019, 05:45 PM
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In short, I grew up in a very critical environment. I became very rigid and dedicated to perfectionism. I wasn't interested in others being invested in it. I was, initially a perfectionist about everything! It was just too much.

When I was a freshman in college, I had taken some interests/vocational types of testing, which took traits into account. At that time, the number one career suggested to me was : Military Officer.

I had taken the very same tests four years later. After having been away from a criticizing, OCD type of an environment, I was finally "free" and my career codes had changed to that of a psychologist, a guidance counselor, a nursing director. LOL! Quite different.

Over time, I have only relaxed more and more. I no longer care much about investing in perfectionism. I no longer care if others approve or not. It's nice if they do; yet, it's definitely not imperative. I gotta be me!
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Old Nov 04, 2019, 08:56 PM
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In short, I grew up in a very critical environment. I became very rigid and dedicated to perfectionism. I wasn't interested in others being invested in it. I was, initially a perfectionist about everything! It was just too much.

When I was a freshman in college, I had taken some interests/vocational types of testing, which took traits into account. At that time, the number one career suggested to me was : Military Officer.

I had taken the very same tests four years later. After having been away from a criticizing, OCD type of an environment, I was finally "free" and my career codes had changed to that of a psychologist, a guidance counselor, a nursing director. LOL! Quite different.

Over time, I have only relaxed more and more. I no longer care much about investing in perfectionism. I no longer care if others approve or not. It's nice if they do; yet, it's definitely not imperative. I gotta be me!
Military officer? I would be afraid, normally, to include after that, but then I read the rest of your post. You've come a long way 😉
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Old Nov 05, 2019, 04:28 AM
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I am very much a perfectionist in myself on all levels. It does often feel suffocating and exhausting yet I really can’t stop regardless of how much time I have worked on it in Therapy.. it’s just the way I am wired.

I can’t feel that way towards others tho. I have often wished a person had done something better or used a different approach but it doesn’t really bother me.
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