[girlN]

I have had a few problems with a girl in my class. She is 30 and smokes pot, drinks all the time even comes to school drunk! Has 4 men she cycles through and had the nerve the other day to scream at me for NO reason and said I needed to be heavily medicated and that I wasn't bipolar just an a**hole and went on and on. I guess I am still hurt by that. We were doing book work (anatomy) and she just lost it for no reason. and today after 5 weeks of being treated like I was not even alive she all the sudden acted like my best friend. I don't know what to do I was civil w/ her b/c I am done w/ school in Feb. and I might as well make things easy on myself and not be a total bi$#@ but I want to! Any advice? I am just so frustrated.

[Bellax3]

Sorry she's being such a b!+$# to you!
Just curious though- What kind of school are you in?
Anyway, I think you're doing the right thing by trying not to start any problems. Try to remain civil, and make it clear to her you are not interested in being friends, nor enemies.
Good luck!

[girlN]

I am in cosmetology. I just get frustrated that all of the sudden she just started yelling @ me. thanks for your input. I think I am just going to keep on w/ being aloof.

[ehrhar]

I agree with Bellax3. Let it roll by. You don't have to be friends.
You're not required to be friends. You're there to do the best you can in class. I know it hurts to be attacked. I was in a meeting with a grown man who made a demeaning remark to me. I was just flattened. Another man at the table defended me but I couldn't get over the rude comment. I worried over it for days afterwards. I hope you can overcome the situation and not let it get you down.

[selfy]

ignore her stupid remarks. its only her not knowing hoe to grow up. personally she sounds screwed up. its like when i wentto my grandmas, my uncle randomly said 'oh youve learnt how to wash' trying to be funny. i was so upset, its not my fault i have a hormonal disorder that f*cks up my skin, and its bad ehough getting ***** from school kids. i wa thinking bout it all the time i was there. ive alsorealised, hes made me swear more too,,,, being round him i spose
stupid ***
well i guess all u can do is ignore her right? oh and if your on a real bad day i dont think there is anythin wrong with making the odd smart answer. but yeah keep civil
take care
self

[curley]

I am still surprised by the crap that some people pull! And I am blown away when they come back later and behave as if nothing ever happened. No apology of course. I doubt the "stupid girl" would ever admit she was wrong or had a problem! You are smart to be pleasant toward her, It will only look bad on you to behave the way she did. But I would stay far away! I understand your frustration. But you dont want to be the "stupid girl" Good luck in your new career! and Happy New Year

[GoodMama]

Maybe she's bi-polar, too? It's not an excuse for rude behavior ... there's rarely an excuse for that, IMHO ... but who knows what or who happened along before she saw you. S**t flows downhill and I'm sorry you got the brunt of her problem. At least you can congratulate yourself for not jumping on someone else's case and sending the s**t downhill even more!

I agree with everyone else ... stay in neutral where she's concerned and try to forget it.

Hang in there ... and I hope your New Year is healthy and happy!

GoodMama

[girlN]

Thanks every one. I have just let it go and after reading everything you all have wrote I feel much better. It has nothing to do w/ me and I now see she is just an unhappy person and had to take it out on me b/c I got my life together and she can't. I too hope you all have a wonderful new year and be safe. ((((thanks))) GirlN

I understand that things are going better. Maybe since you are doing well you can ask if she needs help or wants to talk, civily of course. I have been out of school for ten year now. I remember the how the pricks treated me. I have seen some of them out and about and found out that they actually were really suffering and did not know how to ask for help. They apoligised for there behaviors way back then. Told me they wish they could have communicated to me that they needed help, but were afraid of the stigma if it got out.

[girlN]

This girl and I had been VERY close before all of her crap and she suffers from low self esteem and that is about it. She just quit going to her Dr. b/c the therapist told her she didn't need meds all she needed to do is take responsibility for her actions and so she quit going. I happen to know the Dr. and she is a great dr. this girl is just looking for something else to blame but in all reality she is just an %#@&#!. Thank you though twirls I do think it is great to see people care and are offering support and ideas to help. Have a great day and thanks for your ideas.

[Sultrysorrow]

Sounds like she's the one with the problems. If she hit so close to the mark then don't take it to heart. Embrace it, at least you're trying to have stability in your life.