[Fuzzybear]

Maybe I need to close my cave door to everyone who is not on my friends list (here and elsewhere)… that would mean I also could not message them. I don't mean put anyone on ''ignore''.... just so that I never ever let my snake send anything to anyone if I am triggered.

Feel free to ignore this. or not respond I mean. i'm not having a good day, I wish I had some ''meds'' but I can't go down that route especially right now. I am ''safe''.... I'm sorry about all the posts. A couple of things have happened today which I wasn't expecting so I have to implement even more ''coping'' mechanisms.... and the professionals did not help me with this, they did not offer me ideas I do not think that if I phoned a ''crisis'' line they would help but its ok I can deal with it, I am actually used to ''getting by''.... I just wish I could thrive instead of just survive

I'm sorry about the rant/whine

respect to all

[Fuzzybear]

Having such a massive list of friends (and contacts) I don't always notice immediately if someone has deleted their account
or less frequently, deleted me
I am not sure if someone else has deleted their account, only yesterday a good long term friend deleted their account unexpectedly
I wish I wasn't so messy
I wish I didn't get ''attached'' to people I care about,.
or do I..
Do I really want to be someone who doesn't care

[SorryShaped]

We're supposed to get attached to people. It's supposed to hurt when they're gone. That's part of being human.

[giddykitty]

Originally Posted by Fuzzybear

Having such a massive list of friends (and contacts) I don't always notice immediately if someone has deleted their account
or less frequently, deleted me
I am not sure if someone else has deleted their account, only yesterday a good long term friend deleted their account unexpectedly
I wish I wasn't so messy
I wish I didn't get ''attached'' to people I care about,.
or do I..
Do I really want to be someone who doesn't care

I've asked myself the same type of question so many times, but the true friends make the losses easier. btw, I too have lost someone (well, i feel the loss of someone here, but i'm talking about another). I actually made a thread about it....oh wait, that was another friend. They finally came back (thankfully) but now another has disappeared and it's so quiet without them. :/ Plus, i have no clue how they're doing. Hoping that they're just taking some space.
*hugs Fuzzy

[~Christina]

Why not just focus on the people here that interact with you ?? There are thousands of members here.

Stick with who you know and ignore any poor advice. You can control who
You talk to , truly ignore others,, I have Many people I truly just scroll past, nothing they have to say I want to hear.

[fern46]

Originally Posted by Fuzzybear

Maybe I need to close my cave door to everyone who is not on my friends list (here and elsewhere)… that would mean I also could not message them. I don't mean put anyone on ''ignore''.... just so that I never ever let my snake send anything to anyone if I am triggered.

Feel free to ignore this. or not respond I mean. i'm not having a good day, I wish I had some ''meds'' but I can't go down that route especially right now. I am ''safe''.... I'm sorry about all the posts. A couple of things have happened today which I wasn't expecting so I have to implement even more ''coping'' mechanisms.... and the professionals did not help me with this, they did not offer me ideas I do not think that if I phoned a ''crisis'' line they would help but its ok I can deal with it, I am actually used to ''getting by''.... I just wish I could thrive instead of just survive

I'm sorry about the rant/whine

respect to all

I understand closing the cave for a while. Taking time away to heal and balance in your own way can be very healthy from time to time. I'll support whatever you feel is best. Respect to you as well.

[Wild Coyote]

Hey Fuzzy!

You have shared a lot of yourself lately.
It's been wonderful to get to know you more!

It makes total sense you might be feeling vulnerable. We all feel vulnerable when we expose ourselves. Sometimes, we need some time.

You've also been feeling some anger surfacing. You're very concerned you might hurt someone with your anger.

You've had great luck with taking control and with calming the pace at which the anger rises, keeping the anger manageable, so far.

Maybe your feelings are overwhelming right now?

I totally agree with fern, it's healthy to set boundaries. You have mentioned closing the cave door to some people. this is a healthy strategy to handling your emotions while remaining open to people you enjoy .

If, at any time, you feel you need to close the door to everyone, then do so, taking time for yourself.
If you do close the door to everyone, please send me smoke signals, letting me know you are okay?

If you would like ideas on how people deal with their anger as it surfaces, people will likely share their strategies with you. Maybe start a thread, asking for ideas for coping with anger?

I am sorry I am just now seeing this thread, fuzzy.
I love you!