[ladyconfused]

In 2016 I was diagnosed with bipolar disorder 1 and OCD tendencies. Right after, I had a conversation where a friend confessed he liked me. I told him it’s not like I never thought about it. When he asked if I like him more than my husband I told him absolutely not. That I was madly in love with my husband. That he’s my best friend. I’m a little wanky about medication right now. But I never told my husband that I said “it’s not like I never thought about it.” Now it’s tearing me apart inside and I feel like confessing but I’m afraid of losing everything in my life. Mostly my husband. The love of my life. It didn’t mean anything when I said it. I just kinda... said it. I actually got the saying from a Family Guy episode where Brian confesses his love for Lois. And she says she can’t be with him but it’s not like she’s never thought about it. There was no emotional attachment or anything. Nothing. I felt nothing.

[~Christina]

Originally Posted by ladyconfused

In 2016 I was diagnosed with bipolar disorder 1 and OCD tendencies. Right after, I had a conversation where a friend confessed he liked me. I told him it’s not like I never thought about it. When he asked if I like him more than my husband I told him absolutely not. That I was madly in love with my husband. That he’s my best friend. I’m a little wanky about medication right now. But I never told my husband that I said “it’s not like I never thought about it.” Now it’s tearing me apart inside and I feel like confessing but I’m afraid of losing everything in my life. Mostly my husband. The love of my life. It didn’t mean anything when I said it. I just kinda... said it. I actually got the saying from a Family Guy episode where Brian confesses his love for Lois. And she says she can’t be with him but it’s not like she’s never thought about it. There was no emotional attachment or anything. Nothing. I felt nothing.

If it was just a one time thing, saying that ? then no I do not believe that is cheating . Now if you kept talking to him then it would be to me a form of cheating .

Have you found a good medication combo that is allowing you to enjoy stability and life ?

[ladyconfused]

Originally Posted by ~Christina

If it was just a one time thing, saying that ? then no I do not believe that is cheating . Now if you kept talking to him then it would be to me a form of cheating .

Have you found a good medication combo that is allowing you to enjoy stability and life ?

Oh my gosh thank you so much for replying. I’m on abilify 15 mg right now and I don’t feel like it’s working 100%. I haven’t even been on it a full 6 weeks yet so I have to see if it’ll work.

It’s never happened before or ever again. It was such an idiotic thing to do. I immediately stopped talking to this person.

[~Christina]

Originally Posted by ladyconfused

Oh my gosh thank you so much for replying. I’m on abilify 15 mg right now and I don’t feel like it’s working 100%. I haven’t even been on it a full 6 weeks yet so I have to see if it’ll work.

It’s never happened before or ever again. It was such an idiotic thing to do. I immediately stopped talking to this person.

your struggle with most ,

Dont beat yourself up over it

Are you just on Abilify? Most pdoc's like to have someone on a Mood stabilizer also.. But it depends on what part of Bipolar causes you the worse problems or equal amounts of both.. You still can go a bit higher on Abilify if need be.. Yes it takes time to feel the full effect of a medications, That's exhausting I know.

[FluffyDinosaur]

I would not consider this cheating either if my wife had said something like that. The way I see it sometimes you can't help developing feelings for someone else. I wouldn't blame my wife for that. I would only blame her if she then acted on those feelings.

Originally Posted by FluffyDinosaur

I would not consider this cheating either if my wife had said something like that. The way I see it sometimes you can't help developing feelings for someone else. I wouldn't blame my wife for that. I would only blame her if she then acted on those feelings.

To the OP, exactly what Fluffy Dinosaur wrote above, in my case. If my husband thought any expression of me liking another guy, with no serious intensions, was cheating, I would be the most cheating woman in the PA/NJ/NY Tri-state area. Really! My hubby knows I have men around town that either I have mini crushes on or that have mini crushes on me. I even hug and kiss (on cheek) some of these guys, or they do so to me. I'm a flirt, for sure, but never "cheat".

My husband even knows how much I love my psychiatrist. Again, nothing has or will ever happen, but hubby teases me about it. He doesn't feel threatened, but I will say he is perhaps slightly jealous of this adoration for another man. Luckily, my husband is a very laid back guy. I do know that some men would take such things differently. I'm similar to him. My husband has some female friends, but I never worry that he would "cheat" on me with them, in the way I view cheating.