[Mbluish]

My husband went through a deep depression last year. He cried all of the time and couldn’t get out of bed at times. He said he felt like he was walking through mud. He would also get exceptionally angry at me over small things (I dropped a fork at lunch, I said the wrong actors name) and also got angry at me for odd things (I took the dog potty early one morning as I always do and he blew up at me that I am up and I should just stay up and live my life). The deep depression subsided but the anger continued. He started seeing a therapist over a year ago when the depression started. I don’t want to go into details but he is hyper focused on racism, spends an abundance on time on social media talking about it with me and friends. He has lost a few friends because of this. He had me up hours after bedtime rambling about the topic. He keeps saying he feels he needs to get away for awhile to clear his head. Two weeks ago he came home to tell me he rented an apartment an hour and a half away near the beach in a town we used to (before the depression) visit often. It is our happy place. Just before he got the apartment, I started seeing the man I married in regards to his affection towards me. The anger is still there but not like it was. He has never gotten manic like a understand bipolar people can be, but him getting that apartment feels manic to me. His plan is to stay a few months. I would also think if he is bipolar his therapist would recognize that. Any thoughts or suggestions are greatly appreciated.

[bpcyclist]

I am so sorry you guys are dealing with this difficult scenario, bluish.

Of course, noone here can diagnose your hubby. But a good psychaitrist certainly could start that process and that is what I would strongly recommend. Bipolar disorder is highly variable from one person to another. Irritability and agitation are key features for a lot of folks, though. There are also what are often termed mixed episodes, which can have a kind of non-euphoirc, even dysphoric, mania component. This can appear on the outside as agitation, impatience, irritability, anger,, so on.

No idea if that is what is at play here. It is also possible that he could have some type of obssessive or compulsive issue going on, I suppose. I am not super knowledgeable about those disorders, myself.

Bipolar disorder can have onset at any age. We just had someone on this forum describe a mom who may have symptoms for the first time at 65, so, it can happen. My first manic and psychotic episodes were at 41.

So, a good psychiatrist is imperative, in my view. Of course, there are many outstanding therapists out there, but for a definitive diagnosis, I, myself, strongly advise a board-certified psychiatrist.

Sending you strength and support!! You can do this!!

[Victoria'smom]

Oftentimes medication is needed. I suggest getting yourself in therapy also.