[SolarExpose]

My husband had an episode 6 years ago (before I met him). I didnt get much information on what he experienced but I do know some of the reason why he went through it - his business partner has cheated and frame him and he was facing jail time for something he never did. Eventually it was proved he was innocent but it took a toll on him as he treated this person as a brother for many years.
Fast forward 3 years, when I met him he was mostly in depression and not coming to work (he owns his own company which he has along with his family and I work for his company), not going out, he was just at home sleeping eating what hing tv, repeat. Reason being that his family tried its best to keep him away from anything so to not go through the same episode.
i felt that was wrong and he shud change his lifestyle. Slowly we became friends and I managed to get him out of his depressioN. Over the course of 2 years he had low and high moments but vary rare within the time. We started dating and engaged. Before our wedding the doctor that was seeing him left the country which led to him changing his doctor. At this point the new doctor took him off depakine and put him on lamictal. From
That point on it was only high or low high or low one after the other. We got married and it continued, until the COVID lockdown in March which made him be normal for 5 months.
Recently we noticed he started not sleeping which leads to him getting high. We went to his doctor to try and prevent it but the doctor did not believe us and rather believed him who said he is feeling fine.
next day he had a breakdown. Started shouting and everyone and crying in front of everyone and asking everyone to take him to the hospital. Eventually we got him home (from work) and he was low and quiet and silently crying and being scared.
What led to this was that He believed his data was stolen and given to the same person who betrayed him 6 years ago. I cannot know if this is true or not but his family is adamant its all his imagination. My husband was ready to file a case against this person and show proof of it being true. But I never got to see any of it because of what happened next.
the next day all of a sudden he started being scared, thinking we are all in danger, imagining things, not knowing what year we are in, not recognizing our house, our dog, not knowing what he is doing. We managed to take him home and calm him a bit but the next week was a nightmare. He barely slept because he was refusing it, he kept having delusional thoughts, thinking he is talking to god, imagining people around, not recognizing me sometimes, destroying things around the house thinking he’s either fixing them or that they are possessed, praying, crying a lot of times, taking a million showers, trying to run away from home, getting really angry or being normal sometimes.
For 1 week 1 treatment was tried, which did not work, so the next week we changed it and it seems to be working slowly slowly.

My issue is - why did all this happen again? His family believes its black magic...
I want to know the scientific reason for it.
His family while taking care of him has not really been understanding of his situation. Instead of understanding that he is struggling and has no clue what he is doing, they start shouting at him, and complaining all the time. At one point they even told me its my duty to take care of him so i shud do it. I need to mention I am pregnant and due within a month.
It breaks my heart seeing him cry, when he is angry I am scared, and when he is normal I miss him so much I wanna cry again. Whenever I do cry in front of him he somehow softens and is normal.

His family is telling me that after he recovers I have to control him all the time and not let him talk to x y z people, meet people, do this or that. Basically he shud just be at home sleep eat watch tv repeat. I am strongly against it. Besides that I dont see how this will help him to learn to handle life, its also inhuman and not possible for me to do.
In the city we live most people are connected and his past will always come back if he has not overcome the trauma whether its true or not (like how his family is saying he is imagining the whole situation). Plus in his company it seems that everyone is cheating him. And obviously if you dont oversee your business. As a business owner he is suppose to do business which they never allow him to do. Sometimes he himself is crying and saying “I am 36 years old, you dont allow me to do anything. Not watch this, not go here, not have a phone, not have friends, how can i live like this?”
His family is saying we shud not tell him of what happened but I think he shud know the seriousness of it so that in future he would listen whenever I tell him he is getting high or low and needs medication adjustment.
I want to leave this country. I feel that he needs to rather have a 9-6 job where he doesn’t need to worry of people and work afters and where he doesn’t know anyone and can make new normal friends, not big shots that can hurt him. Plus be away from his controlling family.
I understand they are worried but this is not the correct approach and I feel its also what has contributed to the entire situation.

Please give some comments/inputs.

[Yaowen]

Dear SolarExpose,

I am so sorry that this is happening. Do you think it would help to bring a professional psychologist into this? In complicated situations with complex family dynamics, sometimes a professional psychologist can help sort things out and give really insightful and wise advice. I wish I knew what else to say. The whole situation is really distressing. So very sorry I could not be helpful to you in this! Hopefully others will will prove more helpful to you.

Sincerely yours, Yao Wen

[Victoria'smom]

You're his wife not his treatment team. Treat him as an equal don't tell him what he can and cannot do even when he is sick. That just causes fights. Now if he's a danger you absolutely have the right to remove yourself from the situation. I have a therapist I see weekly and a psychiatrist. My husband has permission to call my therapist for help if needed. He also attends my psychiatrist meetings.

I believe that bipolar is chemical imbalance which can only be helped by medicine. Therapy is 4 getting used to the new normal and guiding us through the episode we still have . I think it may be useful for you to get therapy to because burn out is a real thing. I can't give career advice. However my son is looking at working for himself in the future. So that if he has an episode he can take time off. I think first and foremost he needs to get better for a length of time before deciding on Big career moves. He should be allowed friends and everything else a normal healthy adult should have.

[sarahsweets]

It sounds like he is having delusions. Has he been evaluated for anything other than depression or bipolar?