[bpcyclist]

It has come to my attention that this may be occurring on the bipolar forum, sadly. I haver never done it and never would. I consider it extremely unethical, teenagerish, and wrong. It is also possibly a bannable action.

Just curious what others think.

Hugs!

[Moose72]

What I say to one member isnt shared with other members.

[bizi]

did someone betray you?
bizi

[bpcyclist]

Originally Posted by bizi

did someone betray you?
bizi

Well, about that, I do not know for certain. But someone else clearly believes they have. Maybe more than one someones.

[TunedOut]

I agree with Bizi that doing this is betraying the trust of anyone you PM [unless the person asked for you to pass on the info or if a PM has multiple recipients/ CCs--when you message two or more at once you are implying that the subject of the PM can be shared by all the recipients (but no one else) on the PM that you sent out].

Also, PC Community guidelines say Community Guidelines (the list is longer than this but these are the ones that apply and they seem like good rules):

This is, first and foremost, a self-help support community. That means if your message (post or PM) isn't about offering support to another person or asking for it, it's potentially not appropriate for our community. Specifically prohibited from our community:
-Messages discussing a private message (PM) from others
-Members should generally not speak for, or about (especially in a negative manner), other current or past members. If a member wants to say something, they are welcomed to do so themselves. If a past member who's left on their own accord wants to say something, they're welcomed to start a new account.

[bpcyclist]

Originally Posted by TunedOut

I agree with Bizi that doing this is betraying the trust of anyone you PM [unless the person asked for you to pass on the info or if a PM has multiple recipients/ CCs--when you message two or more at once you are implying that the subject of the PM can be shared by all the recipients (but no one else) on the PM that you sent out].

Also, PC Community guidelines say Community Guidelines (the list is longer than this but these are the ones that apply and they seem like good rules):

This is, first and foremost, a self-help support community. That means if your message (post or PM) isn't about offering support to another person or asking for it, it's potentially not appropriate for our community. Specifically prohibited from our community:
-Messages discussing a private message (PM) from others
-Members should generally not speak for, or about (especially in a negative manner), other current or past members. If a member wants to say something, they are welcomed to do so themselves. If a past member who's left on their own accord wants to say something, they're welcomed to start a new account.

Thank you, Tuned. I appreciate you posting this content.

[fern46]

No. It violates the essence of a private message.

[Sunflower123]

Absolutely not.

This is where life gets tricky. I 100% agree it’s a violation of privacy and respect for the other person. Private messages are meant to be held between those involved only. It’s no one else’s business.

That said, I know tons of people who screenshot texts or private messages for “receipts” to send to others and use against people. It is childish and truly despicable. I hate that our society has somehow made that commonplace and acceptable. Much like rumors/gossiping is in a small town. It’s why I hate people.

So, just saying to say it — 100% agree with you, but the world isn’t gonna change. You gotta learn to protect yourself from what shouldn’t even be an issue. Morality is a mess these days.

[swimmingly]

Just thinking of doing this makes me feel gross. It's an ultimate betrayal of trust. I wouldn't do this to a friend in my real life, why would I do it to a friend that I sometimes trust with things even more private and who I'm sure trusts me as well. Uncool.

[FluffyDinosaur]

That's a big no no imho.

[Fuzzybear]

That is not acceptable in my opinion

[TishaBuv]

. “I consider it extremely unethical, teenagerish, and wrong“

^so do I.

It’s good character to keep what others confide in you in confidence. It’s bad character to talk smack about others behind their backs.

That said, In general, be careful what you confide in others. Everything you say can and will be used against you.

There are people who earn trust that I have no doubts have been true to me. I’ve only had PMs with a few other members. All have been supportive. I didn’t say anything that I wouldn’t want getting back to anyone else even though I didn’t think it would.

[bpcyclist]

Thanks everyone for the thoughtful remarks.

For the record, I have no interest in seeing anyone banned. My point is simply that we are all God's children, or whatever you believe. We are all equal. Just because someone is more insecure or needs seven meds or is more narcissistic than you are, does not make you more valid or special. I suppose maybe someone on here perhaps thinks they are more important than me, say, because lately I have more psychosis than most and am more schizophreniaish. You are not. Maybe at times some are sicker. That is the nature of the illness.

Perhaps this is a time for us to come together again, with love and forgiveness in our hearts. We are all special. I love each and every one of you. Let's get back to supporting and loving one another.

Hugs.

[Fuzzybear]

Originally Posted by bpcyclist

Thanks everyone for the thoughtful remarks.

For the record, I have no interest in seeing anyone banned. My point is simply that we are all God's children, or whatever you believe. We are all equal. Just because someone is more insecure or needs seven meds or is more narcissistic than you are, does not make you more valid or special. I suppose maybe someone on here perhaps thinks they are more important than me, say, because lately I have more psychosis than most and am more schizophreniaish. You are not. Maybe at times some are sicker. That is the nature of the illness.

Perhaps this is a time for us to come together again, with love and forgiveness in our hearts. We are all special. I love each and every one of you. Let's get back to supporting and loving one another.

Hugs.

Good post

[Soupe du jour]

Originally Posted by bpcyclist

Thanks everyone for the thoughtful remarks.

For the record, I have no interest in seeing anyone banned. My point is simply that we are all God's children, or whatever you believe. We are all equal. Just because someone is more insecure or needs seven meds or is more narcissistic than you are, does not make you more valid or special. I suppose maybe someone on here perhaps thinks they are more important than me, say, because lately I have more psychosis than most and am more schizophreniaish. You are not. Maybe at times some are sicker. That is the nature of the illness.

Perhaps this is a time for us to come together again, with love and forgiveness in our hearts. We are all special. I love each and every one of you. Let's get back to supporting and loving one another.

Hugs.

You are a beautiful man, bpcyclist!

[Victoria'smom]

I don't share PM's and I expect the same respect.

[*Beth*]

It would never even occur to me to share a PM and if it were to occur to me, I'd be immediately embarrassed at the thought because it would have been something I might (??) have done in 6th grade.

But I'm not much of a PM person. Well, a little bit. I kind of forget there are PM's sometimes. That we have that option, I mean.

[Daonnachd]

No, I definitely wouldn't forward a message, nor quote content to someone else.

[Coolbreeze74]

No, I would never do that. Its childish...

no I don't do this.

barely get many messages anyway. lol

Unfortunately, everyone here is guilty of sharing other members PMs with another member (or more). And anyone who claims they don't do it is lying. Sorry but that's the truth.

It's par for the course with message board forums. Nobody's information is sacred online, even if the community guidelines state that it is. I have personal experience with being gossiped about behind-the-scenes. It was so bad, I was bullied by multiple forum members to the point where some sicko got my real name and phone number and address and contacted me several times, revealing their forum identity to me.

If you have evidence of someone betraying you, then you should forward it to a moderator here. But it's rather naive to believe that anyone's PM's here are sacred. It's why my PM is turned off. I don't trust anyone here.

[bpcyclist]

Originally Posted by Motts

Unfortunately, everyone here is guilty of sharing other members PMs with another member (or more). And anyone who claims they don't do it is lying. Sorry but that's the truth.

It's par for the course with message board forums. Nobody's information is sacred online, even if the community guidelines state that it is. I have personal experience with being gossiped about behind-the-scenes. It was so bad, I was bullied by multiple forum members to the point where some sicko got my real name and phone number and address and contacted me several times, revealing their forum identity to me.

If you have evidence of someone betraying you, then you should forward it to a moderator here. But it's rather naive to believe that anyone's PM's here are sacred. It's why my PM is turned off. I don't trust anyone here.

Hm.well, I reject your thesis completely. I would never, ever share a PM from one member with another. Ever. Never.

If trusting other humans makes me naive, then I am totally all in on naivete.

Hugs.

[swimmingly]

Originally Posted by Motts

Unfortunately, everyone here is guilty of sharing other members PMs with another member (or more). And anyone who claims they don't do it is lying. Sorry but that's the truth.

Thankfully, Motts. Not everyone is guilty of that. Also, I don't lie. That may be your truth, but you'll never impose that on me. Good day to you.

[Fuzzybear]

Originally Posted by swimmingly

Thankfully, Motts. Not everyone is guilty of that. Also, I don't lie. That may be your truth, but you'll never impose that on me. Good day to you.

Good post, well said.