[Victoria'smom]

I talked to my parents, transferred the money for the dog, they had no problem with it until I sent the map. Now my dad is bailing, my mom is upset and mad at me but you offered. Not my fault it's so far away. I tried to pick one as close as I could but I only have so much money and it has to be a small dog so I can care for them but big enough to do certain tasks. So this made me feel like a burden. I already feel my husband is going to dump me as I'm so ****ed up. I've been crying over how I rely on my parents and they act like I'm a burden. I feel like a burden.which really doesn't help my current situation, How do you deal with being a burden I'm not just a burden to society but to my loved ones too?

[Blueberrybook]

I understand.

I'm not sure I remember my own name right now, and I was born in 1978! But don't worry. I'm the same way right now. Honest.

I may have checked any grammar. today or in my whole lief at this point b/c that's pretty much the point. And that's true. Honest.

I usually have so much better grammar, and please understand I'm off my game ATM. AN ATM? Don't you get cash there? Don't worry ATM could maybe enven be me right now.

[Blueberrybook]

I really do feel for you.

[unaluna]

V's mom: you dont have to interpret it as you being a burden. Maybe its just when god closes a door, she opens a window.

[raspberrytorte]

You're not a burden @Victoria'smom.

Once you're feeling better it would be good for you to give yourself tasks to do each day. Getting a dog is a great idea because you'll for sure have something to take care of. Like I take care of our special needs cats everyday, and I make sure I finish my chores around the apartment. It gives me a sense of accomplishment. 😊 And my husband really appreciates it.

Anyway, so maybe find something that gives you a sense of accomplishment each day? And then you won't feel like a burden (even if you're not). *hugs*

[Victoria'smom]

@unaluna that's the weird thing they haven't told me no. But they're *****ing about how it's the wrong type of dog, and how far it is and things like that. They're going to ***** about the breeder because I doubt she'll come with dog food or anything. It's not an expensive dog. I don't have several thousand to drop on a dog that may wash. They forget I live off of a less than fifth of what they make. I can't have a purebred with skin issues. I can't have any purebred. I adopted this way because I couldn't afford the $600 fee for the Pound with everything else and risk it being a "dangerous breed " in DNA tests. I've already spent over my budget. They also want me to have a large dog for mobility but I can't take care of a larger dog. They don't understand small service dogs.

[Victoria'smom]

That's what I'm hoping. I have to leave the apartment several times a day. Make sure my house is clean enough that the puppy can't get into everything. Things like that.

[unaluna]

Your parents are allowed to change their minds and back out, IMO. Its not a reflection on you, is all i'm saying. Being mentally healthy doesnt mean all our plans work out the first time. It means we adapt to whatever happens.

[Victoria'smom]

Originally Posted by unaluna

Your parents are allowed to change their minds and back out, IMO. Its not a reflection on you, is all i'm saying. Being mentally healthy doesnt mean all our plans work out the first time. It means we adapt to whatever happens.

Yeah they are able to back out. That's not what they're doing though.

[Victoria'smom]

So they left to pick up the puppy tomorrow. The guy is antsy to sell the puppy Said he had another buyer and so I asked if his other one was available he said no. So he wanted me to pay more but he asked sheepishly. I didn't understand so he gave up. I'm already spending $50 more then I wanted too but I would have gave him more if WE were picking her up but no car so the dog is like double the price or more. I'm starting to think this is a bad idea but it's done. hopefully I bond with it.