[tifferific]

I've been labeled with boderline.
But I don't shift jobs. I am very dependable. My family can always count on me.
I do have an eating disorder, but put others far before myself.
I don't threaten suicide.I don't understand this label much anyone help????

[Pup]

You may have other difficulties that clash with the BPD.
It may not seem like you have it, but you may match some of the symptoms perfectly and severely enough to be diagnosed with this disorder.
Or, you may have been misdiagnosed and need a second opinion.

[Michah]

Hi there,

There is a large portion of people with BPD who are dependable and can hold down jobs for exteneded periods......as with all mental illness dx, there are variations in the functionality with that person......personality and other factors are involved.

I don't know how many dx criteria you need to be dx with BPD now, but it was pretty "linear" when I was dx 15 years ago. In 15 years, I have raised a child single-handedly, had high profile jobs(although I did not work when my son was young). I can't say I was having a good time(because it was AWFUL) but I have had long periods of high functioning and long periods of not being able to function at all......

If you are concerned, I agree with Pupp........a second opinion would be good........there should be extensive personality testing, at least 13 weeks of therapy and observation and a clear indication of feelings and behaviours relating to BPD. If your first doctor did not do this thorough dx process, I would be hesitant and seek another opinion.......

Good luck, sweetie........don't worry too much about the outcome if you can......eating disorders are a strong indicator in BPD but must sit alongside other factors.......

Get the RIGHT answers and then the right treatment.......let us know how you go......

[ECHOES]

Have you asked why this seems to apply to you?
These diagnoses are a way to describe symptoms or ways in which we interact with others. With BPD, intese internal experiences, and intensely felt emotions, for example, can affect our behavior and interactions with others.

There are other things: Intense fear of abandonment for example (some act out on this, trying to keep people close to them, while other avoid relationships). In the same way, a person can have an intense fear of losing their job and feel not worthy of their job, spending every minute in theat job (in my case 11 years) waiting to be 'found out' and lose the job.

It's complex.
Asking why this applies to you in particular would help you to understand the reasoning, and yourself too.

[Fuzzybear]

Originally Posted by ECHOES

Have you asked why this seems to apply to you?
These diagnoses are a way to describe symptoms or ways in which we interact with others. With BPD, intese internal experiences, and intensely felt emotions, for example, can affect our behavior and interactions with others.

There are other things: Intense fear of abandonment for example (some act out on this, trying to keep people close to them, while other avoid relationships). In the same way, a person can have an intense fear of losing their job and feel not worthy of their job, spending every minute in theat job (in my case 11 years) waiting to be 'found out' and lose the job.

It's complex.
Asking why this applies to you in particular would help you to understand the reasoning, and yourself too.

[tifferific]

Originally Posted by Fuzzybear

Thanks, this has helped a bit. Well a lot. Because yes I fear of loosing control of everything. Of letting anyone in. And when I do I so fear that they will leave and hurt me. And I can't handle that. So so rarely do I expose myself that I live life.
But I do not have intense outbreaks.
And am very reliable.
I just have very many reasons to not trust and fear what I do.
From experiance.