[pride4life]

can someone help me understand this better.please,i did not understand how my psychachrist was trying to say what itis

[Christina86]

Hey ((((((((pride4life)))))))))))

I'm sure other people will be able to help if you've got more direct questions, but PC does have information on BPD: http://psychcentral.com/lib/2007/sym...lity-disorder/

Hope that helps

[pride4life]

that helps some

[phoenix7]

hey pride, also have a look at the other posts on this baord and it wil give you an idea about it - take care P7

[pride4life]

thanks phoneix

[Xantin]

you're splitting people (bad OR good), impulsive behavior, you don't know you're own identity, probably you cut yself, your moods swings in extremes, you are addicted on sth., if not, you'll be. Etc. I'm sorry, this is HPO.

[happierdays]

My therapist suggested a book that helped me understand so much more about BPD. It's called "I Hate You, Don't Leave Me". I can't find it right now or i'd give you the name of the author. I can only speak for myself, but I found it very enlightening.

[motley66]

Originally Posted by pride4life

can someone help me understand this better.please,i did not understand how my psychachrist was trying to say what itis

I have the intense anger that comes with bpd, it is almost uncontrollable. I have difficulties with people I work with because when something makes me angry or I am in one of my bad moods everything around me makes me mad and it is noticable even if I do not say anything. I am sarcastic when I am in these moods and if someone makes me mad I label that person as crap. It is almost like I send them to the dungeon so to speak in my minds eye. Another problem I have is impulsivity and it causes me alot of pain. I have quit jobs by just walking out and not giving a darn that I did not have another job, I will resort to pills, pot or alcohol to escape the intense anger I feel inside. I am often ashamed afterwards of how I blow up when angry or my sarcasm which I do not hide. I do not do the cutting and I am not suicidal but most of the other descriptions I do have. I have not found a pdoc that deals with borderlines, so I do alot of self help reading and these social sites. Just remember you are not ALONE, there are people that do understand every feeling you have.

[JayS]

Criteria in order of their importance:

* Intense unstable relationships in which the borderline always ends up getting hurt.
* Repetitive self-destructive behavior, often designed to prompt rescue.
* Chronic fear of abandonment and panic when forced to be alone.
* Distorted thoughts/perceptions, particularly in terms of relationships and interactions with others.
* Hypersensitivity, meaning an unusual sensitivity to nonverbal communication.
* Impulsive behaviors that often embarrass the borderline later.
* Poor social adaptation: in a way, borderlines tend not to know or understand the rules regarding performance in job and academic settings.

The Diagnostic Interview for Borderlines, Revised
Gunderson and his colleague, Jonathan Kolb, tried to make the diagnosis of BPD by constructing a clinical interview to assess borderline characteristics in patients. The DIB was revised in 1989 to sharpen its ability to differentiate between BPD and other personality disorders. It considers symptoms that fall under four main headings:

1. Affect
* chronic/major depression
* helplessness
* hopelessness
* worthlessness
* guilt
* anger (including frequent expressions of anger)
* anxiety
* loneliness
* boredom
* emptiness
2. Cognition
* odd thinking
* unusual perceptions
* nondelusional paranoia
* quasipsychosis
3. Impulse action patterns
* substance abuse/dependence
* sexual deviance
* manipulative suicide gestures
* other impulsive behaviors
4. Interpersonal relationships
* intolerance of aloneness
* abandonment, engulfment, annihilation fears
* counterdependency
* stormy relationships
* manipulativeness
* dependency
* devaluation
* masochism/sadism
* demandingness
* entitlement

Traits involving emotions:
Quite frequently people with BPD have a very hard time controlling their emotions. They may feel ruled by them. One researcher (Marsha Linehan) said, "People with BPD are like people with third degree burns over 90% of their bodies. Lacking emotional skin, they feel agony at the slightest touch or movement."

1. Shifts in mood lasting only a few hours.

2. Anger that is inappropriate, intense or uncontrollable.

Traits involving behavior:
3. Self-destructive acts, such as self-mutilation or suicidal threats and gestures that happen more than once

4. Two potentially self-damaging impulsive behaviors. These could include alcohol and other drug abuse, compulsive spending, gambling, eating disorders, shoplifting, reckless driving, compulsive sexual behavior.

Traits involving identity
5. Marked, persistent identity disturbance shown by uncertainty in at least two areas. These areas can include self-image, sexual orientation, career choice or other long-term goals, friendships, values. People with BPD may not feel like they know who they are, or what they think, or what their opinions are, or what religion they should be. Instead, they may try to be what they think other people want them to be. Someone with BPD said, "I have a hard time figuring out my personality. I tend to be whomever I'm with."

6. Chronic feelings of emptiness or boredom. Someone with BPD said, "I remember describing the feeling of having a deep hole in my stomach. An emptiness that I didn't know how to fill. My therapist told me that was from almost a "lack of a life". The more things you get into your life, the more relationships you get involved in, all of that fills that hole. As a borderline, I had no life. There were times when I couldn't stay in the same room with other people. It almost felt like what I think a panic attack would feel like."

Traits involving relationships
7. Unstable, chaotic intense relationships characterized by splitting (see below).

8. Frantic efforts to avoid real or imagined abandonment

* Splitting: the self and others are viewed as "all good" or "all bad." Someone with BPD said, "One day I would think my doctor was the best and I loved her, but if she challenged me in any way I hated her. There was no middle ground as in like. In my world, people were either the best or the worst. I couldn't understand the concept of middle ground."
* Alternating clinging and distancing behaviors (I Hate You, Don't Leave Me). Sometimes you want to be close to someone. But when you get close it feels TOO close and you feel like you have to get some space. This happens often.
* Great difficulty trusting people and themselves. Early trust may have been shattered by people who were close to you.
* Sensitivity to criticism or rejection.
* Feeling of "needing" someone else to survive
* Heavy need for affection and reassurance
* Some people with BPD may have an unusually high degree of interpersonal sensitivity, insight and empathy

9. Transient, stress-related paranoid ideation or severe dissociative symptoms

This means feeling "out of it," or not being able to remember what you said or did. This mostly happens in times of severe stress.

[shezbut]

Wow, Jay!

Thank you so much for your terrific response. It's highly descriptive ~ it's so...me!

Shez

[Miracle1986]

((((pride4life))))

[phoenix7]

((((((pride4life))))) take care

[JayS]

Originally Posted by shezbut

Wow, Jay!

Thank you so much for your terrific response. It's highly descriptive ~ it's so...me!

Shez

It's the best description of me too

[jeremiahgirl]

Hey check this site out : www.borderderlinepersonality.ca cya,  jg+