I feel like i will be alone for the rest of my life and that is my biggest fear of all i know i will be alone someday because i can not trust anyone especiaally strangers because of borderline and i try to not think if someone likes me is only because they want something from me

[Michah]

Originally Posted by loser37

I feel like i will be alone for the rest of my life and that is my biggest fear of all i know i will be alone someday because i can not trust anyone especiaally strangers because of borderline and i try to not think if someone likes me is only because they want something from me

Babe, you will not be alone for the rest of your life.......things are always in flux, NOTHING ever stays the same even if you don't notice it.......basic physics

There is no evidence that you will be alone forever as we cannot accurately predict the future......concentrate on yourself, in loving and living. The other stuff is icing on the cake. Once you know how you feel about yourself, all the rest will follow and you will have people in your life that DESERVE you.....

If you are getting help through the wild terrain of BPD, then change will happen.......you will become more trusting, more loving and more peaceful.

Be infinitely forgiving of yourself, tell yourself that you feel this way but do not judge it and do not act on it, just observe it. All things change.......and rebirth is never easy.......You are loved, you are cared for and we are here.

Look at this way........if you did not question, there would be no motivation.......you are healing. It means you CARE

Take good care, sweets and be very precious with yourself.......there is only one.....

Originally Posted by Michah

Babe, you will not be alone for the rest of your life.......things are always in flux, NOTHING ever stays the same even if you don't notice it.......basic physics

There is no evidence that you will be alone forever as we cannot accurately predict the future......concentrate on yourself, in loving and living. The other stuff is icing on the cake. Once you know how you feel about yourself, all the rest will follow and you will have people in your life that DESERVE you.....

If you are getting help through the wild terrain of BPD, then change will happen.......you will become more trusting, more loving and more peaceful.

Be infinitely forgiving of yourself, tell yourself that you feel this way but do not judge it and do not act on it, just observe it. All things change.......and rebirth is never easy.......You are loved, you are cared for and we are here.

Look at this way........if you did not question, there would be no motivation.......you are healing. It means you CARE

Take good care, sweets and be very precious with yourself.......there is only one.....

thankyou Iam going to start working through all this with my theraptist ty again for your help

[Michah]

Originally Posted by loser37

thankyou Iam going to start working through all this with my theraptist ty again for your help

No problems keep talking babe......one day at a time, okay? Things WILL change......as they are always destined to.......

In stillness........

Michah

[Fuzzybear]

((((((((((((((( 37 )))))))))))))))

[ECHOES]

Therapy can help you explore that perception and learn more about it. There is so much there to talk about and look at. When we are curious about our perceptions we can look at them without judgement and learn more about what they say about us, what we want, what we need.
I think you can have people in your life. Imagine someone else like you: what if you two could meet up and forge a friendship bond that is real and doesn't include the requirement of having to give something to the other (the other wanting something from you).

[shezbut]

Originally Posted by loser37

I feel like i will be alone for the rest of my life and that is my biggest fear of all i know i will be alone someday because i can not trust anyone especiaally strangers because of borderline and i try to not think if someone likes me is only because they want something from me

((((alone))))

I struggle with the same thoughts and feelings. Reminding myself that this feeling will not last forever...just as happiness (or any other mood) would not become eternal...helps a teeny bit. Every teeny bit does help. Increasing activities that bring some happiness helps too.

Lastly, the DBT group and individual therapy are helpful. BUT, I've been triggered a few times into depersonalization by talking about my deep feelings and experiences.

Gentle hugs to you!
Shez

[morning_view]

Maybe it'll help 37 to remind yourself that there are people out there who feel the way you do - I know reading your post reminded me of how I feel alone a lot of the time, just like shezbut and and probably everyone who's posted a reply so far - I find it helps sometimes to remember there are some people who know how you feel, maybe not exactly, but enough to be supportive - I find I can feel very alone when I'm around my friends because they simply don't understand, and talking to people like yourself on here can give a lift because you DO understand because you've been there yourself

I've rambled somewhat, I think what I'm trying to say is, there'll always be someone on here who will try and help you feel less alone

M_V x

[danstedak]

I feel the same way you do about being alone. I push everyone away before they can leave me and it is horrible.