[mkings]

I recently broke up with my boyfriend, and he has BPD. I did not know this when we got together, and I do not think he did either. Well, recently, we had another huge argument, and of course I was in the wrong, but he went in to such a rage, he broke half the stuff in the house. After he left, and went back to his moms, I went to my moms, I was so scared. He has been in a rage before, but not like this. I had been able to handle it before, but this one, it was way over the top. Back to my story, well, when I got to my moms, I was so upset, and crying. I told her what happened, and she said I could not handle him, that I need to just get away from him. We talked about it, and I know after a day or so he is ok, but she made me promise to file a restraining order. The next day, I told him I was going to, and that he should just leave me alone. He did not believe me, and he just blew up my phone. I did go and file the restraining order, and he left me alone. After about a week, we went back to court, and finalized the order for a year. He was so... adimant about accepting the order. He agreed... I was heart broken, I don't know why accept that I guess he would just fight it and say he was getting help, and he did not want it. Well, I left the court room in tears, I did not let him see. A couple of days later, a friend of ours called, and said he wanted to talk to me. I told her I could not, it would be against the order. She said it would be ok to call him, he could not call me. So I did. We talked, and since then we have met a few times in private. The last time, he got upset about something, and started yelling at me. It was like it was all over again. He says he is going to see a counselor. He tells me other things, that I know are lies. Is lying part of BPD? I just don't know what to do. I do love him, I know I can't fix him. Any suggestions would be very helpful.

[MyBestKids2]

Hi mikings, welcome to PC!

I have borderline personality disorder, and know how tough it is to live with me. I suggest you follow the restraning order to a T, and not have any communication with him. I know it will be hard, but its most important for your safety and well being. He'll have to make his own decision as to whether he seeks therapy or not. You need to stay safe !

Good luck,

Dee

[mkings]

Originally Posted by MyBestKids2

Hi mikings, welcome to PC!

I have borderline personality disorder, and know how tough it is to live with me. I suggest you follow the restraning order to a T, and not have any communication with him. I know it will be hard, but its most important for your safety and well being. He'll have to make his own decision as to whether he seeks therapy or not. You need to stay safe !

Good luck,

Dee

Everytime I see him, he is ok at first, and then start yelling. I leave, and then he calls and calls and apologizes. Today I called in to work becuase all I want to do today is cry. I tell him I can not fix him, I can not heal him, and then he begs me, just begs me he needs me there to support him. He does not want to do it without me. It just makes me feel worse. I am suppose to go see my T for the first time today. Then on top of all of this, and this is another story, my sons daughter came over last night, and all she could do is blame me for my son not wanting to talk to me, and that I need to go and see him. Not call, not text, go and see him. All she did was b.... at me. The last time I saw her or my son, they had the cops called out to pick up his truck me and D were working on, and fixed, after they told me they were going to sign the title over, and me sell it and give them some of the money. She told the cops I was an unfit mother and that I should not have my daughter with me becasue I was allowing her to be around a psyco. I hate her, and she always does this to me. right now I just want to crawl in a hole and tell everyone to leave me alone. "He" tells me that I need him, I can not handle them on my own. I know I have my problems, and that just makes it worse. I am not strong enough to handle them all.....

[GoingInsane]

Dude you need your own help. Stop thinking about him. By even talking to him you are actually enabling him.

[Michah]

Oh babe........I am so sorry this has happened.......phew......not much i can say at the moment.......but my thoughts are with and biggest hugs I can manage coming your way.....

Take really good care of self, sweet......

Michah