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Dec 10, 2009, 01:49 AM
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I know my dr is aware of my obvious attraction to him...he wants me to verbally admit to this so therapy can continue and get it out in the open. I am frozen with fear and refuse to go there. He has made no misleading or disctructive approaches toward me and is considered an "experts expert" in psych/bpd. I am screwing up my therapy with this stupid fantasy yet I cannot deny its presence. HELP!!
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Dec 10, 2009, 12:48 PM
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Hi Cyncerely,
Transference (including "erotic transference" as it is I think called) is very common, and some experts would say, essential to in depth therapy. Please know that you are not alone! I know its scary to vocalise our deepest feelings to our therapists... it really will help you though. It won't feel like it is helping at first, trust the process though.  furry paws PS welcome to PC!
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Dec 10, 2009, 01:24 PM
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It really is worth talking to your Doctor but I know its hard, I've managed to tell nurse therapist that I find her attractive but I haven't told her that I think I love her. But I think I will at somepoint. Have a look on the psychotherapy part on this board there's a sub forum called romantic feelings towards your therapist. Good luck and welcome to PC x x |
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Dec 11, 2009, 06:20 PM
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(((Cyncerely)))
Fuzzybear is right. Transference is very common in therapy. I've had it happen once, where I snapped at my T (like he was my hub) and as soon as I recognized it, I quickly gasped. I was amazed and embarrassed, but my T reassured me that it was okay. He knew how to handle it and I wasn't abnormal. Phew!  Talking about it did help me through the emotions, rather than bottling.Best wishes to you ~ welcome to Psych Central!
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Dec 11, 2009, 06:44 PM
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He wants you to get relief too; that is why he wants to talk about it together. It is okay and it is not uncommon. I hope you can trust him and talk about this so you can feel better about it and it won't be 'the elephant in the room'.
There is a separate sub-forum in the Psychotherapy forum for just this issue. I encourage you to read there too. You will see you are not alone. |
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Dec 11, 2009, 07:31 PM
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how long have you been in therapy for? If he is an experts expert then he would definatly be able to help and stop you from feeling like you are screwing things up
Transference is what its called and even through it is awkward, it is able to be helped and completley normal. Keep posting 
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