[psychsoccermom]

I am in a toxic relationship. I feel like my life is a rollercoaster ride. We get along great for a day or so and then we fight. I have bipolar and BPD. The 2 of those combined is rollercoaster enough.
I lived alone and single for about 4 years. Then we bought a house together. I did great and was enjoying life as a single mom. I gave up therapy cause life was good. Ever since I moved in with my partner, I have changed my meds and started seeing a therapist again.
Anytime I try to end it, she goes nuts and I give in. I don't want to give up my house. The house is big enough for us to live in comfortably in our own separate rooms. Any suggestions on how to either work it out and get off the rollercoaster or convince her it's just not working?
The relationship doesn't struggle because of me separately, she contributes a great deal. She is very rigid, follows the rules and a little controlling.

[ECHOES]

If it isn't working for you, it isn't working for you, and you don't have to convince her of that. You decide what's best for you. If she isn't convinced, that is for her to deal with. She may never think the same way about it that you do. Separate people think separate thoughts.

When she "goes nuts" she is controlling you. When you "give in", you are reacting to the controlling. It sounds hard, but it is freeing to say "This isn't working for me and I'm not interested in continuing." You aren't obligated to say any more. You don't have to justify your thoughts or go into details, although she will try to take you there to make you question yourself. Keep repeating "I'm not interested in continuing the relationship" without responding to the "Why?".

Do you think it's possible to live in the same house? It may be hard to give up the house, but it may be necessary.

[Fuzzybear]

Thinking of you...

[Princess Butterfly]

Have you thought of relationship councelling.It might help you both express how you feel and come to a agreement