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Mar 24, 2011, 09:48 AM
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I've never been in this situation before, but how well does a relationship work out if BOTH people involved are diagnosed with BPD? Is that just an explosion waiting to happen? And what if one person has a more dominant personality than the other? Should I run now? This is the longest friendship I've had in my life and I don't want to lose it. For the most part we get along great. And at other times, I just want to throttle them. I'm very submissive in nature, and VERY non-confrontational, so I just hold it in until it explodes.
Any opinions?
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Mar 27, 2011, 08:01 PM
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I'm curious about this too. I don't have any good insight for you. I honestly think my ex has narcissitic personality disorder. Not saying that just because he's my ex- we actually still get along ok sometimes. But really he fits it totally. And we had a LOT of problems. (i had no diagnosis when we were married but totally see the BPD now.)
I think- and only based on speculation, that it can have it's good and bad points. Good in that you'd really understand each other, bad because like you said... its can be an explosion waiting to happen. I'd say if you both went to therapy seperatly, and then some together, and were willing to work at it- it might be able to work. Good luck whatever you decide. You dont want to ruin a friendship.
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Mar 27, 2011, 10:04 PM
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I am borderline...I am pretty sure my friend is too.Thankfully we talk when things dive.So far.I am grateful for it.
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Mar 27, 2011, 10:49 PM
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You did say friendship... I may have misunderstood it as romantic relationship (hence me suggesting therapy together). Sorry about that.
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JayCee "Why does the rest of the world put up with the hypocrisy,the need to put a happy face on sorrow, the need to keep on keeping on?..I don’t know the answer, I know only that I can’t. I don't want any more vicissitudes, I don't want any more of this try, try again stuff. I just want out. I’ve had it. I am so tired.I am twenty and I am already exhausted.”-Elizabeth Wurtzel |
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Mar 28, 2011, 12:29 AM
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I was just recently diagnosed with BPD. But. In the past I was married to a woman with BPD. It was a roller coaster ride from hell. She was the dominant personality, was abusive, we would idealize each other, then hate each other the next minute. We also had a lot of fun. We never addressed the core issues...and it ended very badly. If you are going to make it work, make sure you both have solid communication/ assertiveness skills, supports outsude the relationship, and good therapists.
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