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#51
Nov 10, 2012, 11:44 PM
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thanks longleaf.
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#52
Nov 12, 2012, 06:40 PM
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I pushed away the fantasy again today so that I could function.
I still don't know the right thing.
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#53
Nov 19, 2012, 11:52 PM
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I stopped drinking caffeine on Friday, November 16.
The fantasies are calming down a little now. I still have the crush, maybe the caffeine augmented it? I did some hard questioning again t his weekend about my condition. I worked on another site that deals with love addiction. Love Addiction Recovery. They're a tough bunch, but their readings are good. I am working on a concept of "stripping away" the essence of the man. Because it's not the human being I love, it's the ideas, the book, and his Russian name that I am hung up on. I pray I am getting somewhere. Carol
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#54
Nov 27, 2012, 02:26 AM
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This has still been a challenge.
I noticed longleaf is gone. She did not fail me, I failed myself. Carol
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Nov 29, 2012, 12:27 AM
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I am still trying to get rid of this.
Again, I am trying a "transfer" thing; that technique that recovering torchbearers use. I am making up someone in my head with the same name as Anatoli's. I can't continue to be limerent on a dead end. Carol
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#56
Nov 30, 2012, 11:39 PM
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I am still not sure where I am going with this.
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Jan 04, 2013, 01:53 AM
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I have finally let him go.
I am reading Siddhartha. As a pwbpd, I feel I need someone to focus on for comfort and Siddhartha is much better for me. He is a fictitious figure which means not someone real (even dead) whom I cannot have, which fed on my angst, drama, and self-punishment. I pray someday I won't need anyone that way. Carol
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