very bad day for me yesterday i just cried and cried

hi , i dont know whether you keep up with my postings to make a long story short, my sis in law was up to no good again and told my inlaws friend who comes over once a year that my sis in law told her that she fears for my inlaws safety and that i mistreat her neglect her take advantage of her, you see my sis in law has this problem that she must always be the center of attraction if not she makes up stories so that people will like her more than us, if she feels that someone is closer to our household than hers she has a problem

i then told my husband what she said, in the past she got my husband in trouble with lies that is why my h and his brother dont speak, so his brother called his wife which in return called her friend

my brother in law said i made the whole thing up and the friend denied everything and so did my sis in law

my h got very upset and started yelling at me to stand up for myself and make them tell the truth but i was so devastated that i told him you know how these ppl are and they are not going to admit to anything, so my h started cursing me out calling me everyname in the book he said i was weak and that from now on since i did not stand up for myself that i am labled a liar and he is not every going to believe anything i say he also told me he does not want any liars in his life and kept cursing and yelling at me

i dont remember the last time i cried so much its been a couple of years since i last cried and i broke down severe headache confusion anxiety, now he barely talks to me, but he needs me more than i need him, he says he is not going to eat or take his meds so i have anxiety about that too.

i feel devasted

You did nothing wrong! If hes going to go off the deep end hes not supportive of you, and thats not fair! Now, I cant tell your whole story (idk ur husbands issue... Cant really understand what youre being accused of) but I do know that if shes already known to lie, why dont you just let things die down and reiderate your side layer. Tell him that it wasnt fair for him not to support you.

I know its not much, but I go through similar things with my boyfriend. he makes me feel worthless, literally! But it always subsides and we wotrk it out... Good luck! Keep us posted!

Your husband shouldn't have cursed you out, but ultimately I agree with his point of view. It's irrelevent what his family believes or will believe. The fact you're not able to standup and defend yourself does make him look bad, and it makes you look like a troublemaker since you sit there and take it.

he says i am weak for not standing up to them because of that he has no respect for me anymore, but he knows for a fact that they are liars because it happened to him last year , i dont have the strenght to stand up for myself i am very depressed more now than before, he said alot of hurtful things to me, and now he said i am not going to take my meds or eat because he knows that worries me

but he wants me to curse them out and threaten to kick their butts and that would get me in trouble see i am not an outspoken person although if it was not for the fact that i would go to jail i would kick thier butts but that is not a solution and i know it makes him look bad but he has to understand that at this point in my life and my mental situations i dont need this i value your oppinion

that changes things... certainly shouldn't go the violent route, because I agree you'd end up arrested. you should stand up for yourself though with words..