[BorderlineBrittany]

Nothing particularly bugging me today.. But i feel like i hate myself more today then usual.. I feel like screaming.. Just yelling.. maybe even throwing a few fists around.. Is there anything you guys do when you are down? WHen you hate yourself? Im just down and i dont know how to get up!

Sorry to hear your feeling this way...

Is there anywhere you could go for a long walk? Do you maybe have a special place you could go to where you can heal emotionally?

How about a special friend you could visit? Someone once suggested to me that i go to a pet shelter or pet shop and look at puppys - it melts your heart and distracts you for a little while. Maybe just try surrounding yourself with comforting things - maybe order takeout, put on a good movie and some comfy pyjamas etc just anything where your taking care of yourself and nursing whatever hurt your currently feeling. Hope you feel better soon

[RaggedyAnn67]

Is there anything that has worked for you in the past? I made this poster that I drew pictures of things that I like to do and try to use them at the moment.
BBQ; take a bath & light candles (candle light only) & eat a bowl of your favorite ice cream with chocolate on it (or your favorite topping!); Walk (w/dog too); play cards; listen to your favorite CD; bake; read a hystorical romance book; rest; use a word find puzzle; & your own ideas.

I have even made an emergency basket for these occassions. I keep my safety plan in there along with a small bottle of bubble bath (to remind me of that option), a small candle, favorite scents that soothe me, crosssword/sudoku puzzles, blank paper to remind me to write, crochet needles, a favorite recipe, etc.

Trying to find what works for you will come to you.

[BorderlineBrittany]

Thanks ladys.. I do scrapbooking.. but am always so tired after a 9 hour work day and having 2 kids to look after on my own.. And I find everything stressful.. Baking, word puzzles, Going for a walk, scrapbooking even.. Its kinda rediculous..

Originally Posted by BorderlineBrittany

Thanks ladys.. I do scrapbooking.. but am always so tired after a 9 hour work day and having 2 kids to look after on my own.. And I find everything stressful.. Baking, word puzzles, Going for a walk, scrapbooking even.. Its kinda rediculous..

How about a cuddle with your two kids? Just curl up on the sofa with them and perhaps watch a little tv? A duvet and ice cream definately helps lol Really hope you feel better soon

[BorderlineBrittany]

I was gonna take the girls to the new pool tonight but found out the kids area is closed till the weekend so i think my duvet is in the dryer at home and i have soup in the crockpot.. so after a nice warm soup i may snuggle up with the girls with a bowl of ice cream or something rather and my clean duvet! Thanks!!

[RaggedyAnn67]

Originally Posted by BorderlineBrittany

Thanks ladys.. I do scrapbooking.. but am always so tired after a 9 hour work day and having 2 kids to look after on my own.. And I find everything stressful.. Baking, word puzzles, Going for a walk, scrapbooking even.. Its kinda rediculous..

Not ridiculous at all. A fact. Some have more energy somehow than others too. We would be millionaires if we could find the 'exhaustion' solution. Even not having the current responsibilities that you have, I have a difficult time allowing time for those quiet, relaxing moments and projects/hobbies. I do what I can. I often start something and keep what I started out to continue on tomorrow. I decided that I don't have to try and finish everything in one blow.

But, it doesn't hurt to have that 'emergency to-do basket' handy, though.
Snuggling with young children sounds so nice/warm. Mine are too old now for me to have that option. I can sure remember those days though. Very much a happy place in the mind for me.

[BorderlineBrittany]

I think this weekend or some time i have time i will make a to do basket! sounds fun! i have a scrapbooking plastic stacking drawer that i leave out so i can see it... i try to get to it... I made my mom a scrapbook for christmas of alll the photos ive takin of my girls since we moved away from her and promised her i would send updated pages atleast once a month.. we are on the 2nd month now and i havent finished my first page! im trying but moneys been an issue with getting my cardstock... But ya hobbies are great for depression! And so is food! lol
I was reading on some of the description of BPD and a coping mechanism for our irratic moods is food... lol i def can relate! i use food to cope alot! but i think in this case its needed!