[acrosstheborderline]

As someone in their forties now diagnosed with borderline traits , Im less implusive then what I was when in my 20s . I can see consequences to my actions now . I wouldnt do anything out of out control under severe emotional torment like I did years ago with self harm. I cant anyway I have a little boy to consider. Im just wondering if other's are the same who are in my age group .

hi

im in my mid 30's and wasvery definatly MUCH mroe impulsive in my teens, peaking in my early 20's - i really put myself in some awful danger but was very lucky to come out relatively unscathed

i have two kids and two step kids now, im very settled and identify emotions is a lot easier - i get the same levelof strong emotions but i dont react in the same way

my reactions still arent great (hiding away from people/watching a lot of tele) but ive only really identified all this properly in the last few months so im still learning a lot! i feel like Ive come a LONG way but i still have much further to go

[Amigdala]

I'm 32 and it's the same for me, even without children.

[acrosstheborderline]

Originally Posted by _frogslegs_

hi

im in my mid 30's and wasvery definatly MUCH mroe impulsive in my teens, peaking in my early 20's - i really put myself in some awful danger but was very lucky to come out relatively unscathed

i have two kids and two step kids now, im very settled and identify emotions is a lot easier - i get the same levelof strong emotions but i dont react in the same way

my reactions still arent great (hiding away from people/watching a lot of tele) but ive only really identified all this properly in the last few months so im still learning a lot! i feel like Ive come a LONG way but i still have much further to go

I feel as we age and mature more , so doe's the symptoms of bpd. I still can have out of control emotions , but will get help for this , if Im at a point I cant manage myself .

[kitten2012]

I'm 37 and have found the same. I'm just not as self-destructive now as I was for a while when I was younger. Having a son helps with that. When I'm not strong enough to stay calm for myself, I can do it for him. I haven't cut since I was a teenager and not overly out of control with that.
Soft drugs instead of hard drugs, unlike my 20 year old self. Promiscuity with a select group of partners only, don't ask about 3-4 years ago - that was excessive. Not getting extremely drunk as often - I'm talking to you, recurring problem that shows up every couple of years.
The thing that's gotten worse is that my temper is shorter. But on the flip side, it's not quite as strong either. Sometimes I go through a rough time where I can't control the mood swings, but that's when I get help and take anti-depressants for a while. It drops the peaks enough that I can grab ahold of them easier.

I think that if the "cure" for borderline personality disorder is doing that skills-based treatment, we're on the path for the natural version of that. Every year, we get a little better at some of our struggles because our personal growth kicks in and makes us smarter by experience. So, by learning these skills via trial and error through life, we're getting the same treatment, just very slow. My six cents.

[Girl_Interrupted]

I'm 21 and found that my impulsive behaviours are still at it's peak, slightly.

A lot of other behaviours have died down now.

[Marie67]

I agree, the feelings are still there in all their craziness, but I know how to behave so I don't make it worse.

[acrosstheborderline]

Originally Posted by kitten2012

I'm 37 and have found the same. I'm just not as self-destructive now as I was for a while when I was younger. Having a son helps with that. When I'm not strong enough to stay calm for myself, I can do it for him. I haven't cut since I was a teenager and not overly out of control with that.
Soft drugs instead of hard drugs, unlike my 20 year old self. Promiscuity with a select group of partners only, don't ask about 3-4 years ago - that was excessive. Not getting extremely drunk as often - I'm talking to you, recurring problem that shows up every couple of years.
The thing that's gotten worse is that my temper is shorter. But on the flip side, it's not quite as strong either. Sometimes I go through a rough time where I can't control the mood swings, but that's when I get help and take anti-depressants for a while. It drops the peaks enough that I can grab ahold of them easier.

I think that if the "cure" for borderline personality disorder is doing that skills-based treatment, we're on the path for the natural version of that. Every year, we get a little better at some of our struggles because our personal growth kicks in and makes us smarter by experience. So, by learning these skills via trial and error through life, we're getting the same treatment, just very slow. My six cents.

I also have trouble with mood swings too , cause I can get some control now with my emotions , I get critiszed for not controlling my emotions when they do go out of control. I dont know if you go with this , but I sure do with family member's anyhow .

[acrosstheborderline]

Originally Posted by Girl_Interrupted

I'm 21 and found that my impulsive behaviours are still at it's peak, slightly.

A lot of other behaviours have died down now.

When I was in my early twentie's I was going in andout of the local psych hospital where I was all the time for self harming behavouirs , Your difficulities with destructive implusive behavouirs will get better to not there at all and if some of them are dieing down now then your getting . It's a long process . take care

[ECHOES]

Originally Posted by acrosstheborderline

As someone in their forties now diagnosed with borderline traits , Im less implusive then what I was when in my 20s . I can see consequences to my actions now . I wouldnt do anything out of out control under severe emotional torment like I did years ago with self harm. I cant anyway I have a little boy to consider. Im just wondering if other's are the same who are in my age group .

I was better when I had my son to consider, and then I obtained a job that offered a lot of structure and professional social contact. Those were pretty good years.

Then I entered the empty nest stage and I feel like I've gone backwards. But the good thing is that I can afford the therapy I want and I have the luxury to be self-indulgent and work on myself. That said, I wish VERY much that I'd gone into therapy at a much younger age - I knew I wanted it even as a teen, but was convinced I did not deserve it because the way I was, was all my fault.

[Miss Jade]

I'm 23 and pretty dang impulsive. I hope this does lessen, and sooner rather than later!

I don't think the disorder becomes less severe with age, in of itself. We face different challenges when we are older compared to when young. So, every person will have a different experience. In my case, I'm being affected more by bpd as I get older because it is more and more difficult to find employment when you get older. Nobody wants to hire someone approaching 50 who has an employment history full of holes. I've been fired from nearly every job I've ever had, and that number is so large i'm embarrassed to say. When I was younger, I could bounce back from a job loss fairly easily because I have always had job skills in demand. As time has progressed though, it becomes more difficult to learn in-demand skills because things change so rapidly now in the workplace.

[acrosstheborderline]

Originally Posted by chosen1

I don't think the disorder becomes less severe with age, in of itself. We face different challenges when we are older compared to when young. So, every person will have a different experience. In my case, I'm being affected more by bpd as I get older because it is more and more difficult to find employment when you get older. Nobody wants to hire someone approaching 50 who has an employment history full of holes. I've been fired from nearly every job I've ever had, and that number is so large i'm embarrassed to say. When I was younger, I could bounce back from a job loss fairly easily because I have always had job skills in demand. As time has progressed though, it becomes more difficult to learn in-demand skills because things change so rapidly now in the workplace.

I had trouble getting to into the workplace after my recovery from borderline personality disorder back in 1995. I had little job experince for I was on a disablity support pension for bpd for it was that bad . I couldnt fuction in my everyday life. I know how you feel about job losses for I have suffered alot of them , getting into the work place again . I had little sucess with it . So I can empathise how you feel on that issue . take care

[jenluv]

Originally Posted by acrosstheborderline

As someone in their forties now diagnosed with borderline traits , Im less implusive then what I was when in my 20s . I can see consequences to my actions now . I wouldnt do anything out of out control under severe emotional torment like I did years ago with self harm. I cant anyway I have a little boy to consider. Im just wondering if other's are the same who are in my age group .

Yes! What used to be impulsive behaviors are now thought through a little more -- most of the time. Serious self harm is pretty much out of the question. I have a family who need me.

[acrosstheborderline]

Originally Posted by jenluv

Yes! What used to be impulsive behaviors are now thought through a little more -- most of the time. Serious self harm is pretty much out of the question. I have a family who need me.

Im pretty much the same way with me , with destructive inplusive behavouir's now with a little boy of five to look after full time.

[at_the_end]

i am 20, and just been diagnosed recently but in the past 6months my behavior etc are out of control, only had an assessment, and i feel that there are underlying problems, ie more than bpd! textbook answers were my diagnoses bt i know myself that these therapies will not help!!

[acrosstheborderline]

Originally Posted by at_the_end

i am 20, and just been diagnosed recently but in the past 6months my behavior etc are out of control, only had an assessment, and i feel that there are underlying problems, ie more than bpd! textbook answers were my diagnoses bt i know myself that these therapies will not help!!

Is there anywhere else you can go to explore more what you feel is more then bpd .? However with bpd you can get other mental health disorder 's the go with it . I have severe anxiety as well as bpd .