[oceancries]

It makes sense. I was going through the symptoms this morning. emotionally unstable? thats me. Recurrent suicidal behavior? Me again. Laughing one moment and *****ing off at someone? totally me.

I probably still need to be diagnosed before I can say for sure that I have this but it seems likely...even took the quiz on here and it says its likely...

To you people who have it, how old were you? What was it like dealing with it at first?

[greyclouds]

I still waiting for diagnoses but I know I have it. But one trait.
Have you been to doctor.? And discussed issues?
And are you new.? Not seen you before? ((Hugs))

[OutofTune]

Originally Posted by oceancries

It makes sense. I was going through the symptoms this morning. emotionally unstable? thats me. Recurrent suicidal behavior? Me again. Laughing one moment and *****ing off at someone? totally me.

I probably still need to be diagnosed before I can say for sure that I have this but it seems likely...even took the quiz on here and it says its likely...

To you people who have it, how old were you? What was it like dealing with it at first?

I was diagnosed with BPD when I was 16. I was in denial and quit CBT because it wasn't producing immediate results. My expectations were way too high.

Nine years and several ruined relationships later, I finally accepted I've got a problem that needs to be dealt with.

[oceancries]

Originally Posted by greyclouds

I still waiting for diagnoses but I know I have it. But one trait.
Have you been to doctor.? And discussed issues?
And are you new.? Not seen you before? ((Hugs))

I havent been able to go to a doctor yet. havent had the money. I have discussed issues with people, just not a doctor yet.

and yes Im new. I joined yesterday.

Originally Posted by OutofTune

I was diagnosed with BPD when I was 16. I was in denial and quit CBT because it wasn't producing immediate results. My expectations were way too high.

Nine years and several ruined relationships later, I finally accepted I've got a problem that needs to be dealt with.

One question whats CBT?

[greyclouds]

Welcome and ((hugs)) you have to pay for doctor?? USA??

Originally Posted by oceancries

One question whats CBT?

Cbt is Cognitive Behavioural Therapy

It's helps you to
how you think about yourself, the world and other people
how what you do affects your thoughts and feelings.

You will need to see a professional before you are given a diagnosis.
I was diagnosed 5 years a go and was in my 30's.

Welcome to PC too

[oceancries]

Originally Posted by greyclouds

Welcome and ((hugs)) you have to pay for doctor?? USA??

yes. and yes USA. Florida. I have insurance but I have to pay for some.

[oceancries]

Originally Posted by Tinkerbell..

Cbt is Cognitive Behavioural Therapy

how you think about yourself, the world and other people
how what you do affects your thoughts and feelings.

You will need to see a professional before you are given a diagnosis.
I was diagnosed 5 years a go and was in my 30's.

Welcome to PC too

How do doctors diagnose you? do they do tests?

And thank you.

[greyclouds]

I love Florida . Does it cost lots then?

Originally Posted by oceancries

How do doctors diagnose you? do they do tests?

And thank you.

They will ask you questions (could be different in the US) I am in the UK.
I was seeing my Pdoc for 3 months before I was given a diagnosis.

Some you have you filling in questionnaires.

[oceancries]

Originally Posted by greyclouds

I love Florida . Does it cost lots then?

Yes. Quite.

Originally Posted by Tinkerbell..

They will ask you questions (could be different in the US) I am in the UK.
I was seeing my Pdoc for 3 months before I was given a diagnosis.

Some you have you filling in questionnaires.

Im sure its similar here. Hopefully.

This could be helpful to you, Not sure if you're aware of it.

BPD is manifested by a pervasive pattern of instability of interpersonal relationships, self-image, and affects, and marked impulsivity beginning by early adulthood and present in a variety of contexts, as indicated by five (or more) of the following:

Frantic efforts to avoid real or imagined abandonment. Note: Do not include suicidal or self-mutilating behavior covered in (5).
A pattern of unstable and intense interpersonal relationships characterized by alternating between extremes of idealization and devaluation. This is called "splitting."
Identity disturbance: markedly and persistently unstable self-image or sense of self.
Impulsivity in at least two areas that are potentially self-damaging (e.g., spending, sex, substance abuse, reckless driving, binge eating). Note: Do not include suicidal or self-mutilating behavior covered in (5).
Recurrent suicidal behavior, gestures, or threats, or self-mutilating behavior.
Affective instability due to a marked reactivity of mood (e.g., intense episodic dysphoria, irritability, or anxiety usually lasting a few hours and only rarely more than a few days).
Chronic feelings of emptiness.
Inappropriate, intense anger or difficulty controlling anger (e.g., frequent displays of temper, constant anger, recurrent physical fights).
Transient, stress-related paranoid ideation or severe dissociative symptoms.

[greyclouds]

Originally Posted by Tinkerbell..

They will ask you questions (could be different in the US) I am in the UK.
I was seeing my Pdoc for 3 months before I was given a diagnosis.

Some you have you filling in questionnaires.

Tink how are you? They said I will get full diagnoses on 10th dec they only met me once for 90 minutes.
I've started group therapy why is it so different??
I don't get how they can know I. Just 2 meetings.
I worried

[oceancries]

Originally Posted by Tinkerbell..

This could be helpful to you, Not sure if you're aware of it.

BPD is manifested by a pervasive pattern of instability of interpersonal relationships, self-image, and affects, and marked impulsivity beginning by early adulthood and present in a variety of contexts, as indicated by five (or more) of the following:

Frantic efforts to avoid real or imagined abandonment. Note: Do not include suicidal or self-mutilating behavior covered in (5).
A pattern of unstable and intense interpersonal relationships characterized by alternating between extremes of idealization and devaluation. This is called "splitting."
Identity disturbance: markedly and persistently unstable self-image or sense of self.
Impulsivity in at least two areas that are potentially self-damaging (e.g., spending, sex, substance abuse, reckless driving, binge eating). Note: Do not include suicidal or self-mutilating behavior covered in (5).
Recurrent suicidal behavior, gestures, or threats, or self-mutilating behavior.
Affective instability due to a marked reactivity of mood (e.g., intense episodic dysphoria, irritability, or anxiety usually lasting a few hours and only rarely more than a few days).
Chronic feelings of emptiness.
Inappropriate, intense anger or difficulty controlling anger (e.g., frequent displays of temper, constant anger, recurrent physical fights).
Transient, stress-related paranoid ideation or severe dissociative symptoms.

yes that practically describes me

Originally Posted by greyclouds

Tink how are you? They said I will get full diagnoses on 10th dec they only met me once for 90 minutes.
I've started group therapy why is it so different??
I don't get how they can know I. Just 2 meetings.
I worried

Hey grey,

Didn't see you there

Yeah I guess some Pdoc's are different, I know some that give out quick diagnoses and later are changed.

Do you like group therapy?
Me, My therapy is ending in another 2 sessions in which I am upset about and is such a long story.

[BrokenNBeautiful]

Originally Posted by oceancries

It makes sense. I was going through the symptoms this morning. emotionally unstable? thats me. Recurrent suicidal behavior? Me again. Laughing one moment and *****ing off at someone? totally me.

I probably still need to be diagnosed before I can say for sure that I have this but it seems likely...even took the quiz on here and it says its likely...

To you people who have it, how old were you? What was it like dealing with it at first?

My symptoms hit a peak when I was 30. I was diagnosed when I was about 35.

It was h---.

Carol

[greyclouds]

Originally Posted by Tinkerbell..

Hey grey,

Didn't see you there

Yeah I guess some Pdoc's are different, I know some that give out quick diagnoses and later are changed.

Do you like group therapy?
Me, My therapy is ending in another 2 sessions in which I am upset about and is such a long story.

Tink you know know you only have to pm me if you need me,
I can't believe it would be ending when I know you've not really been feeling better.
It's not this well you've had you 12 weeks off the NHS your better now is it?

Group was ok we talked about rational mind wise mind and emotional mind.
I could barely say my name when I first walked in. But did start to relax. And managed to add the word empty to the group haha.

I think it's just cos I don't know these people and they live in my city, which is small worried they might see me tell the friends, but then there in same group too!! I guess this would be my mind over acting

[oceancries]

Originally Posted by BrokenNBeautiful

My symptoms hit a peak when I was 30. I was diagnosed when I was about 35.

It was h---.

Carol

Did you ever blow up at friends because of the disorder?

Originally Posted by oceancries

How do doctors diagnose you? do they do tests?

And thank you.

Well if you go to the wrong dr. they could say 'I don't like labeling people' and at that point you decide to find another one (true story) The dr that finally did dx me gave me a questionnaire to fill out and asked me several questions. She was very thorough about it too. For me it was important not to go in saying I thought had this or that, I just mentioned the previous dx of bipolar. Funny thing is I knew or was 99% sure I had bpd and when she wrote on a piece of paper that said "borderline personality disorder" and asked if I'd heard of that, I felt a great sense of relief knowing someone actually recognized it.

[oceancries]

Originally Posted by s4ndm4n2006

Well if you go to the wrong dr. they could say 'I don't like labeling people' and at that point you decide to find another one (true story) The dr that finally did dx me gave me a questionnaire to fill out and asked me several questions. She was very thorough about it too. For me it was important not to go in saying I thought had this or that, I just mentioned the previous dx of bipolar. Funny thing is I knew or was 99% sure I had bpd and when she wrote on a piece of paper that said "borderline personality disorder" and asked if I'd heard of that, I felt a great sense of relief knowing someone actually recognized it.

So dont go in thinking you have it or it may sway results?

Originally Posted by oceancries

So dont go in thinking you have it or it may sway results?

No I'm not telling you at all what to do. Just how I did it. for my own sake in the sense that I didn't want to think I went in there and the dr. just agreed. I did think it but I didn't mention it, just my symptoms and my other dx. But that's up to you whether you ask about it and mention it. Nothing wrong with doing that at all

[oceancries]

Originally Posted by s4ndm4n2006

No I'm not telling you at all what to do. Just how I did it. for my own sake in the sense that I didn't want to think I went in there and the dr. just agreed. I did think it but I didn't mention it, just my symptoms and my other dx. But that's up to you whether you ask about it and mention it. Nothing wrong with doing that at all

I told my mother and shes going to set up an appointment with my regular doc, who then assigns me a t I think. I plan on telling them of my concerns because I want a diagnosis. is a diagnosis made based on how you answer questions?

[radioactivegirl]

I started out going to my family physician, but most likely they won't be able to give you a definite diagnosis. You need to be observed by a professional in the psychiatric field before you can get a diagnosis of BPD, but it's fairly common and if you feel like it fits you, you probably have it.

I was officially diagnosed only after going through partial hospitalization once, and then inpatient treatment and a second partial hospitalization. My family is still trying to pay off all the debt we acquired from my most recent mental break down. :/ Good luck to you and hope to see you around the forums.

[oceancries]

Originally Posted by radioactivegirl

I started out going to my family physician, but most likely they won't be able to give you a definite diagnosis. You need to be observed by a professional in the psychiatric field before you can get a diagnosis of BPD, but it's fairly common and if you feel like it fits you, you probably have it.

I was officially diagnosed only after going through partial hospitalization once, and then inpatient treatment and a second partial hospitalization. My family is still trying to pay off all the debt we acquired from my most recent mental break down. :/ Good luck to you and hope to see you around the forums.

Thank you very much!