The self righteous pricks who rule our day to day are really getting me down. What the hell? If I wanted advice like that, I would watch Dr. Phil or Oprah. How the hell are you supposed to form a logical decision with so many pretenders riding the fence throwin down their salt all over my game? WTH? This will probably be deleted but damn, you feel me? Thanks, I appreciate it yall with my whole damn heart. For real.

[AngelWolf3]

Well said! I hope it doesn't get deleted cause I know we all feel this at one point or another!

[tokiwartooth]

I knew two guys like that when I was in grad school in SC. One was worse than the other though. He told me he thought I was too fat to get around well enough to do the work we'd be doing. I asked him when I had first got there where there were cool places to hang out, that I was lonely and would like to meet some new people. He proceeded to tell me that he didn't sit there and wipe peoples' @sses for them, ask someone my own age. Obviously this guy had no life. He said if you're lonely than go back where you came from. I had been there only 2 weeks and I just wanted to make some friends. When I was getting ready to give a presentation the following day, he wanted to talk to me. I told him no. He proceeded to beg and plead for me to talk to him about the presentation. So I relented and went into his office. He asked me to tell him what I was going to say. He was one of the authors listed on my presentation poster, so he wanted to know. I began to tell him what I was going to say when he told me that if maybe I'd shut up and think about something for a few seconds that I would do better. I looked at him like he was nuts. He had asked me to tell him, then he told me to shut up. I don't get it. So I walked out, took my poster with me, and shut the door in his face. I don't need to put up with that petty bull***t. I worked so hard while I was there. And he would keep remarking that he wanted people that had a real commitment to what we were doing, hinting that I was not committed. I stayed out for 48 hours without sleep to do a study on the beach. I worked my butt off. When we would go onto a teleconference he would introduce everyone but me to whoever was on the phone. He had said something about how I needed to get good grades, and I was like wtf are you talking about, I have all A's and B's. He was also on my thesis committee, and I took him off. I told him I needed his signature to do so, but if he didn't want to sign, the dean would override him and take him off anyhow. He got really angry and signed it and told me to get out of his office. I just laughed at him. Truth is, he didn't like women. I was awarded a research assistantship and he had it taken away and given to the other guy that didn't like me and his student. Look at me now, bro. I graduated and I work in my field.

Total jerkoff!!! But you know what my friend? I bet you are living the life and he cries himself to sleep at least more than we do! Eff him and his high horse!!!

[tokiwartooth]

It didn't help that my advisor was a total spineless jellyfish. He let people step all over him and his students. He never once stood up for me. When I taught a lab class, my students did really well, so they accused me of letting them cheat, which I did not. I'm not stupid enough to risk losing my job and getting the students in trouble. My supervisor, who was a total b****, her supervisor, the dean, and my advisor all met in this little conference room so they could question me, literally giving me the third degree. My supervisor started disliking me after I caught pneumonia twice in a row and was out for 2 weeks. After that, she treated me like s***. In the conference room, I swear all they needed was a lamp to shine in my face like they did in the detective movies. I was able to prove to them that I did not let my students cheat, I just had them well-prepared with lots of good notes, study sessions, etc. Sorry the rest of y'all suck at teaching. Not my problem. Not once did my advisor stick up for me. He pretty much threw me to the wolves, so to speak. And the dean, who knows absolutely nothing about what goes on with his students, was telling me that I need to be making good grades, just like the other moron had said. I was beginning to get pissed off, like where the heck do you guys keep coming up with this crap? I have A's and B's in ALL of my classes. He was so far removed from what was going on around him, only caring what was happening in his world, that the whole school could have burned down and he would've never noticed. Well DUH!! They actually sent my advisor to my APARTMENT, my freaking apartment, to tell me that they had given my assistantship to the other student. He was like well you could always take out loans. What do you think I've been doing for the past 2 years?? My aunt, who I lived with, was so angry that she told him to gtfo. I was just kinda in shock, like what the heck just happened here.... The school wasn't a bad school. It was that department that needed help. I'll be surprised if the program does well in the future. Given the morons who work for it.

[pegasus]

Hugs ((((((( lightbulb7 )))))))) I liked the way you worded your post.

Good post ((((LB)))) many thanks and bunches of hugs.

[BrokenNBeautiful]

If I believed every tom **** and harry comment about me, I would be sucidal again.

This kind of attitude aimed at us does NOT help whatsoever with our self-esteem or our bpd!

I wish ppl would stop treating us like they are better than us!

Carol