Don't you just love the self-proclaimed "fixers" ?

But what's really fun, is when you say "I don't think it would help" and they fly off the handle saying that because you didn't take their advice, that you don't want help and that you are just out for attention and not really depressed or whatever symptom you are having. Ugh!

I told my mother I was depressed and she immediately says " such as life we get depressed"

KRIS Thank you, thats gonna be my new answer, I don't think it will help
gotta love that answer, thanks for a good laugh. I can just see that in my mind, GO SET DOWN AND BE PPRETTY, I DON'T THINK THAT WILL HELP

When people tell me to stop talking about my problems.

I take it as a compliment now.

"Thank g*d I feel things and I am not a blockhead!"

Carol

Bob Marley. i LOVE that song. reminds me that sometimes stuff isn't worth worrying about.

thank you for reminding me about that song, though you dislike it so much. i need to listen to it a little more often. it's my kind of music, haha.

Glad I could help... I guess. Maybe if it was faster, I wouldn't dislike it so much... nah.

Oh, guess what? Last night my brother said I seemed depressed. His solution? Snap out of it, of course! I could tell he was joking, so instead of snapping (in a different way), I asked what made him think that would help. He said that he didn't know, but it was all he could think of.
I chose to leave it at that.

OOoh, OOoh! I got one...when 'they' say,"Try not to think about it."

It works every time!

-Fleeing Bellocq, Muse of the Mission District

yeah my dad's solution is" get over it" or "pull yourself up by your bootstraps". Wtf. I dont even wear boots. Hahaha!

Or come on just smile...You can smile...then they tickle your chin while you're crying to make you smile.

That song came out at a very, very bad time of my life and it wasn't an answer, but it did help to remind me now and then that things can always be worse and helped snap me out of more than one bout of depression. It's the mantra of most of the meditation and DBT classes to be honest: don't dwell on the past, don't worry about the future, be happy for the present. I'm not saying it always works but a lot of times we DO get completely down over things we can do nothing about; that is a large part of our problems. It's not as easy as it sounds a lot of the time, but it IS something to continually work on.

husband decided to be all technical. song was written and originally performed by one-hit wonder Bobby McFerrin. i got ONE SYLLABLE (...syllable...doesn't look right but spell-check claims it is...) ONE SYLLABLE RIGHT but anyway...

Bob Marley made it famous...

thread hijacking ftw...sorry.

At least some people get something out of it. I say, give me Simple Plan any day. I'm listening to their song, "Anywhere Else But Here" right now, in fact.

I don't think that's thread hijacking. At the very least I've seen worse.
This still isn't quite on topic, but I can think of a lot of songs that are more likely to cheer me up than that particular song. Music is one of my happy triggers. People generally aren't, unless they know what they're talking about.

I just had this conversation with someone last night. He was kind of hinting that he doubted my advice on relationships (though it was very practical) because I have such a difficult time with mine--I don't understand people, and etc. I explained that, while this may be true, I still have a decent logical knowledge of how they work, in general. If that makes sense.

Perfect sense! I mean, really. We live like this, so we know what not to do, at least. But it's hard to remember advice, even our own, when our emotions take over.

Ok. Check that. We don't always know what not to do. But we can get a general idea.

My father always told me that "you shouldn't feel that way." Just talked to him last night and he said it again! I'm 50 and he's still talking that way. (It wasn't about anything BPD-related; he doesn't even know that I have it or has ever heard of it, I'm sure.)

I have a certain group of people who are a trigger for me. It's hard to explain (because even I know that the fact that they're a trigger is ridiculous) but they've just excluded me, mocked me, and I've felt kind of tormented by them for years. Whether it's as acute as I feel it is or not isn't the issue; I feel that it's a big freaking deal. My good friend is friends with that group; it's his clique, basically. Problem is that if he brings them up at all it sets me on edge and makes me irrational. He's told me a few times that I just need to get over them. That they don't matter, who cares what they think, they're just a bunch of stupid people anyway. That in the long run, even if they had included me, I wouldn't end up wanting to be friends with them anyway. He doesn't get it, how raw I feel inside every time I think about them. I finally had to tell him to stop telling me that, that I wasn't going to effing get over it and that was that. Of course he thinks I'm ridiculous; I am. But he'll stop telling me to get over it because it's pretty futile to do so.

If that's what he thinks, why is he even friends with them?

Ugh. I don't know. Because they're the "cool" people at work (yes, these cliques still exist into adulthood) and they do fun things and have all of the cool parties. Honestly, if they didn't exclude me, I'd probably hang out with them from time to time. They really do have a lot of fun.

"I just tell myself I'm okay."
"I just pull myself up from my boot straps."
"Learn how to drive."
"get a job"
"God's just testing you to see if you still love Him."
...I've also heard the thing about looking myself in the mirror...
"You're not crazy." (really?!! I don't recall saying I was!)
"Honey, we all have issues,"
"Oh, everybody goes through that."
"Oh, but you seem so nice!" (gee, thanx)
"So? Fix it!"

"You need an attitude adjustment.".....sigh

"Don't let everything get to you so much."

"How can that bother you?"

I was always told to 'knock it off' ...how does one 'knock it off' exactly?
Perhaps if they gave me more information..

How about just the simple word "stop" when I'm getting upset. I hear it every single day and I've had about as much as I can take....

Yep, I don't like it either…I BPD with many co-morbidities.

I just went into a forum for one of those issues and was given the most flippant comments back. Leaving PC, I joined this month and have had great support from everyone up until today…and not from anyone on this forum.