[Ultra Darkness]

"I think you're bad for my mental health."
"I think you're just mean."
"Where do you get that idea?"
"You've been rude practically all morning!"
"..."
"On purpose."
"..."
"Don't have anything to say to that, do you?"
"Shut up."
"..."
"..."
"And now you're lapsing into sullen silence again!"
"If everything I say is going to be rude, I'm not saying anything at all."

This is, almost word for word, a real interaction between me and my brother this morning. At the end, he finally shut up and I spent almost half an hour focusing on my breathing.
HE DRIVES ME CRAZY!
He talks too much, he says things without thinking, and if he does think, then he's being deliberately hurtful! And he calls me a very uncaring person? He should look in a mirror!
He says I'm depressing to be around. That I'm have no imagination. He went and said that almost everyone in the house thinks I'm too sensitive!
I don't want anything to do with him. At all. But I can't make him leave me alone, we live in the same house...
I want to break something. I really do.

[greentires4me]

break a plate throw it onto the floor its only one plate not like its every plate it will give you a sense of freedom...but don't forget to clean it up after...

Originally Posted by Ultra Darkness

"I think you're bad for my mental health."
"I think you're just mean."
"Where do you get that idea?"
"You've been rude practically all morning!"
"..."
"On purpose."
"..."
"Don't have anything to say to that, do you?"
"Shut up."
"..."
"..."
"And now you're lapsing into sullen silence again!"
"If everything I say is going to be rude, I'm not saying anything at all."

This is, almost word for word, a real interaction between me and my brother this morning. At the end, he finally shut up and I spent almost half an hour focusing on my breathing.
HE DRIVES ME CRAZY!
He talks too much, he says things without thinking, and if he does think, then he's being deliberately hurtful! And he calls me a very uncaring person? He should look in a mirror!
He says I'm depressing to be around. That I'm have no imagination. He went and said that almost everyone in the house thinks I'm too sensitive!
I don't want anything to do with him. At all. But I can't make him leave me alone, we live in the same house...
I want to break something. I really do.

If you can, just walk away. Whenever he's doing that. I know that's hard. you feel you need to respond but you don't have to. That's one of my problems, I know i'd be better off just walking away from people but i have a hard time doing so. In the rare instances I've been able to though it's always turned out better. Try to figure out responses that will politely shut him up. The thing is he's kind of a real life troll (yeah i know i use that word too much, deal with it :P) and he gets something from your reaction or he wouldn't do it at all. Resist the typical response and don't give him that. Thing is people usually sstop doing the things that they stop getting any fulfillment from. I know it's sad to say that your brother might get something from your angry reactions but it's probably true. I don't know how to help you find a way to do this but I bet it would work!

S4 is right. He is doing it to watch your reaction and you're not disappointing him. I'm not saying it's easy, but once you're able to walk away and not feed in to what he's trying to do, the better it will become. You mentioned it yourself the other day that when you were able to walk away things were better afterwards. You won't be able to walk away and stay calm every time, but the more often you can do it, the more you won't feed in to what he wants and the easier it will become to walk away as time goes on. Don't give up. Don't get mad at yourself when you just have to let to let go of your anger and irritation, but continue to work on it and things will gradually get better, although probably not nearly as fast as you'd like.

am probably pretty late on the draw here but just saw you're 18. i was thinking older, but anyway...

if i was having daily hateful conversations with a sibling or a family member that just refused to listen and was constantly insulting me and such, i'd move out as soon as possible. which i did. i left legitimately for college and never went back.

best thing i ever did for myself and for the relationship i had with my family.

but i know that it's not always easy for people to leave their families. i was never too attached and by the time i moved out i was just too angry to care anymore.

[BrokenNBeautiful]

Bruce and I used to argue like this.

It was h**l.

It take two to make a relationship.

It's not just the pwbpd that can cause grief. Our loved ones can also hurt us. It's terrible.

I don't have advice, except that you don't deserve this.

Carol

[Ultra Darkness]

Originally Posted by DreamAddiction37

am probably pretty late on the draw here but just saw you're 18. i was thinking older,

Why is that?
I sometimes wish I could move out, but money is a problem, and I'm not going to college.

the way you write. maybe it's the area but around here eighteen-year-olds don't have the best grammar, so i thought you were older.

i was lucky with college, somehow got a full ride to a local university but flunked myself the second semester, got a job, used the money from my stipend and some i had earned from work to get an apartment.

do you work?

[Ultra Darkness]

Yeah, part-time. But I work in a small store my parents run, and money is too tight for me to be paid. I've yet to come up with any way to make money, since no one around here is hiring.

As for my grammar, I've always had a problem with poorly constructed sentences and misspelled words. I'm the kind of person who notices those things in books which were proofread by "professionals". Plus, I write as a hobby, so I tend to focus on my grammar a lot.

i used to write so much, and i was the same way with grammar. but i haven't written anything more than a couple pages in a few years, so i've been drifting away. i still notice when newspapers misprint things, and people's incessant misuse of its, it's, your, you're, there, their, and they're...

you'd think with all the harping English teachers and grammar nazis do on the subject, more people would learn...

[Ultra Darkness]

Originally Posted by DreamAddiction37

i used to write so much, and i was the same way with grammar. but i haven't written anything more than a couple pages in a few years, so i've been drifting away. i still notice when newspapers misprint things, and people's incessant misuse of its, it's, your, you're, there, their, and they're...

you'd think with all the harping English teachers and grammar nazis do on the subject, more people would learn...

Tell me about it. It's not just the spelling and grammar these publishers mess up either. I once found a library book that had a chunk of the story repeated over and over at the end. The actual end wasn't there. I told the librarians about it, though, and they got a replacement, so I still got to see how it ended.

Originally Posted by Ultra Darkness

Tell me about it. It's not just the spelling and grammar these publishers mess up either. I once found a library book that had a chunk of the story repeated over and over at the end. The actual end wasn't there. I told the librarians about it, though, and they got a replacement, so I still got to see how it ended.

haa that's great...was it at least a decent ending?

[Ultra Darkness]

Yeah, it was okay.

Originally Posted by Ultra Darkness

Tell me about it. It's not just the spelling and grammar these publishers mess up either. I once found a library book that had a chunk of the story repeated over and over at the end. The actual end wasn't there. I told the librarians about it, though, and they got a replacement, so I still got to see how it ended.

That isn't so much a publisher fault as a copier/printer error. It happens. You'd think they'd catch it before it goes out, but when they're printing thousands of copies one gets by them now and then.

*is proud to be a grammar nazi* even though he makes mistakes too, it's the repeated spelling, grammar and other mistakes that seem to go unnoticed anymore in writing. and... don't you hate those people too lazy to capitalize anything? Oh wait.. nevermind ignore that.

[Ultra Darkness]

How did this turn into a discussion about grammar?

Originally Posted by s4ndm4n2006

*is proud to be a grammar nazi* even though he makes mistakes too, it's the repeated spelling, grammar and other mistakes that seem to go unnoticed anymore in writing. and... don't you hate those people too lazy to capitalize anything? Oh wait.. nevermind ignore that.

(i don't capitalize because it's my style or that's what i'll keep telling myself :P)

Originally Posted by Ultra Darkness

How did this turn into a discussion about grammar?

cuz i said you had good grammar, and it kind of went from there, sorry...

[Ultra Darkness]

That's okay.

Former English teacher...don't get me started on grammar....

I have noticed, as a side note, that most BPDs appear to have better grammar and spelling than the average, so three cheers for us!

[Ultra Darkness]

I wonder if that's part of the creativity showing, or if we're just picky...