communication

I feel like I can't communicate well at all. I'm either too distant and quiet or a needy mess who pisses people off, and invites abandonment. I'm still hurting from the harsh words of a "friend" who said that I "want to be nuts" amongst other things. (this was about a year ago but sometimes it still feels like yesterday.

I do NOT want to feel this constant sadness, hurt and loneliness and this horrible anxiety.

.... Nobody on here, although I do worry that people will hate or dislike me here as well
I worry about messing up and being unforgiven, unforgivable.

Remember, we didn't choose to be this way. But we have chosen to overcome it, because we've chosen to live. You are stronger than you realise. That said, our battle is a private one. I'm still too scared to share my mental illness with a lot of people, my parents included, for fear of them invalidating and minimizing it with the "it's all in your head" line. So I suffer in silence.

There are people who care and who can relate. Lean on those people for support. Especially on darker days.

My thoughts are with you. I hope you feel better soon.

Hey my fuzzy friend. Even by starting this thread you have begun to communicate…so that's a start at least. It is difficult to share with others how we feel, so well done for that.

Of course you don't want to feel those feelings, I don't want to feel those either…it's stressful.

I understand how the words of another can hurt and hinder you sharing. It happened me recently when I tried to reach out to someone in real-life…his words were like a sharp slap on the face and I still feel sore.

Please keep communicating…

The only way I can seem to communicate is through writing. When I speak... well, you saw my own thread about communication problems already.

(((((Fuzzy)))))

I could of written this post myself even writing stuff down I am awful with.
I want you to know that I care about you and you were one of my first friends here when I joined PC

Those sound like normal worries to me, FB.

I'm sorry you are hurting so much. I hope you can relax into being and let go the worries.

We aren't needy -- that's a judgment word -- we just have needs! And that's okay.

((Fuzzybear)),

See, you are not alone, sharing here is a good place for you now, others understand the challenge.

(((Hugs)))
OE

Some people suck baboon balls ((((((((fuzzy)))))) and they don't care who they hurt. Dont let them tear you down, and don't become discouraged from posting

We all have needs, nothing to be ashamed about. I don't talk to anybody irl about this stuff, it just leaves me feeling completley invalidated. I come talk to you guys instead because here I can atleast make internet-based excuses for feeling invalidated / invisible.

Please keep talking to uss to you my furry friend.

Totally get it.

I recall a conversation with a friend about 3 weeks or so ago when I even said flat out I was having a rough time of it and having trouble finding the words.

I got told in a flat harsh tone to 'cheer up'.

Nothing really is easy for us I find. All you can do is try your best and if that isn't good enough well then they can go suck eggs (at least that is how I feel right now, I am sure that will change in like 5 minutes - lol).

I feel like this a lot too.. but it's OKAY if you're quiet, a lot of people are quiet, I'm very quiet! There are people out there who will love and accept you for you, if someone can't then that's their problem.