Dose anyone else suffer from having absolutely no friends what so ever. Really getting tired of being all alone.

[Sebastian1345]

Originally Posted by triste1

Dose anyone else suffer from having absolutely no friends what so ever. Really getting tired of being all alone.

Spend time around people doing things you enjoy. If you've taken up a sport or hobby, go to club events, sporting meet-ups and competitions. Engage with people at these events to make connections. Take it slowly if you're hesitant, but allow yourself to connect and potentially click with people who like the same things that you do.

Go online and look for like-minded people. Even if you don't find friends in real life in any hurry, you can find many people online who share your thoughts, ideas and dreams about many things. You can develop very close and take things at your own pace and to withdraw whenever you need to do so. Online friendships are not as intimate as those in real life and usually won't solve loneliness completely, but are nonetheless a good way to feel connected and pass time.

Volunteer. Doing things that benefit your neighborhood like community service projects are a great way to meet people. Helping the less fortunate also allows you to step out of yourself and put things into perspective.

Try to make friends with an animal. You can go to your local animal shelter and get a dog or cat. Often, pets can act as a nexus of socialization. Having a pet gives you an excuse to get outside and talk to other pet owners that you meet on the streets or in the park.

Take a chance. Socializing is extremely difficult, and even the most social butterfly will find themselves in awkward situations regularly. To properly socialize, you must be willing to go out on a limb and take a risk. If you talk to the popular crowd at their table and they insult you, walk away and praise yourself for stepping into that lion's den. If you ask someone out and get rejected, praise yourself for having the bravery to admit your feelings.

Thank you for your suggestions. Would not have thought to do any of the above on my own . Bad me

[greentires4me]

Originally Posted by triste1

Dose anyone else suffer from having absolutely no friends what so ever. Really getting tired of being all alone.

Originally Posted by triste1

Thank you for your suggestions. Would not have thought to do any of the above on my own . Bad me

I feel some times friendless but its not bad of you to think of anything that someone else pointed out.

joining a class at a leisure center might be possible to. Or even taking a subject from a local college to gain those friendships.

[Sebastian1345]

Originally Posted by triste1

Thank you for your suggestions. Would not have thought to do any of the above on my own . Bad me

Welcome
I was on the same threshold of life sometime back as you are today..

yes, and have done all the stuff Sebastian1345 suggested, but doesn't really work for me, ha.

getting out and socializing is much more complicated than all that.

Yes........

I don't have any friends, either. I do get lonely but sometimes I think it's better this way.

[loudpipes]

I have no friends either but I like it that way. I do sometimes attend yoga where people were really nice. I just have no desire to take on the responsibility of friendship. Instead I got a dog,they don't judge,they just love you for who you are.

If i had just one friend in my life who got me, could look past issues and see the nice person i am inside i would be so happy. I dont mind being alone anymore, getting used to it.
Just wish i had someone to talk to when loneliness starts taring at my soul.

I don't have any friends either so you're not alone, The friends I did have I pushed them all away, I feel lonely all the time

[Ultra Darkness]

I've never had any real life friends.

Yes. And why do people always suggest things like, "Join a club! Go to church! Meet like-minded people! Just get out there!" like you've never ever tried any of those things before. Some of us have tried all of those things and still, here we sit on our laptops day after day, the phone silent, nothing going on, no plans to join.

It's not always that easy so please stop making friendship out to be like something you can just go out and buy from the grocery store. I've worked hard all of my life, ever since I was a little girl, to make friends and it just doesn't come easily to me. Making it sound easy is just insulting and makes me feel worse about myself...like I'm completely missing the boat.

I have pushed everyone in my life away, there is no one left. Now that I know why I have done this my whole life, BPD, it scares me I will spend the rest of my life alone. I want help but have no way to get aside from checking myself into nut house.

Comforting to know I'm not the only one.

Originally Posted by misskeena

Yes. And why do people always suggest things like, "Join a club! Go to church! Meet like-minded people! Just get out there!" like you've never ever tried any of those things before. Some of us have tried all of those things and still, here we sit on our laptops day after day, the phone silent, nothing going on, no plans to join.

It's not always that easy so please stop making friendship out to be like something you can just go out and buy from the grocery store. I've worked hard all of my life, ever since I was a little girl, to make friends and it just doesn't come easily to me. Making it sound easy is just insulting and makes me feel worse about myself...like I'm completely missing the boat.

Thank you for saying this

Originally Posted by triste1

Thank you for saying this

You're welcome. It makes me so mad.

I've joined Meetup.com and I go to some meetups but still...those people are acquaintances. They aren't friends. And I'm going to things that other people arrange. If I want to do something, I still don't have people that I can call up and ask to do things. I used to try to post things in my meetup groups but people either don't know me well enough or don't like me so there wasn't enough interest. Besides, the things I like to do involve road trips...many people are too lazy (sorry, but it's true) to get out of their comfort zone and drive across the state a few hours to see a Detroit Tigers game or something.

[Ultra Darkness]

I only wish I could escape my town for a while, but I haven't been more than ten miles from home in about five years.

One shopping trip to a big city doesn't count.

For all of the people on here who say that they don't have any real life friends, I wish there were some way for us to all be real-life friends. We'd have a big circle of friends then. And we'd be awesome! We'd have the best time.

[Ultra Darkness]

That would be nice...

Yeah. Anyone live in SW Michigan? Doubt it.

[mimi2112]

Originally Posted by misskeena

yes. And why do people always suggest things like, "join a club! Go to church! Meet like-minded people! Just get out there!" like you've never ever tried any of those things before. Some of us have tried all of those things and still, here we sit on our laptops day after day, the phone silent, nothing going on, no plans to join.

It's not always that easy so please stop making friendship out to be like something you can just go out and buy from the grocery store. I've worked hard all of my life, ever since i was a little girl, to make friends and it just doesn't come easily to me. Making it sound easy is just insulting and makes me feel worse about myself...like i'm completely missing the boat.

exactly! Thank you!

Thank you all, your comments have made me feel better

[spondiferous]

I have friends and good ones at that, but that hasn't always been the case. And even still I tend to feel like no one really cares about me and I could fall off the face of the Earth and no one would notice. I find socializing very difficult. I am always afraid that other people are going to judge me, or that they're not on the same level as me and don't understand, or that I'm going to freak them out with my stuff. And sometimes I just plain want to push everyone away and disappear. So I still have the loneliness. It's just not as frequent because I've learned to cultivate friendships with others who have similar experiences as me. It makes it easier to be myself and not feel socially awkward or intimidated. Plus I don't have to work as hard. Even if it's online...friends are still friends.

Is there a place to find crazy friends lol. I think only another crazy person like myself would give me the time of day. You are right though about finding others with similar experiences. I'm pretty much homebound right now so I cant get out to even try. Ive never been good at making friends, have always felt like an outsider. I have huge abandonment issues which makes it even harder.

[H3rmit]

I do all those social things and really try hard, but I just don't have enough in common with people for them to feel kindred, it seems. They find others more similar to themselves than I am. I'm nothing special to them. But I try hard and learn slowly and painfully, trying to get better at being with people. I don't fit. It's difficult. Laughable. And I'm 50, smart, a good learner, but not about people.

I was alone for 15 years, almost totally alone. Then I met my husband-to-be online, in a place a bit like this one. My soul mate. Doesn't fix everything, doesn't give me a purpose in the world, but I am never lonely.