[jean17]

I have my second apt with my therapist for DBT tomorrow and I'm worried. I'm worried that I won't understand, that I haven't done enough, that I haven't tried hard enough, that I won't be able to stay with it, that trying to fit into a group will just be too hard. I called in once to talk to her and she asked me questions that made sense and got me to stop thinking that everything is my fault. But she also kept saying "read your handouts and do something about how you feel". And she said that she would be away, but I could call another therapist if I needed to, but that they would tell me the same thing. So part of DBT is tough-love. I just don't know if I can deal with someone using me like that. My first inclination is to shrink away and disappear.

[Fuzzybear]

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[allme]

Try not to worry about it and go with the flow! I haven't had DBT myself so have no idea what it is all about but I hear good things so just trust her, trust yourself, be yourself and just let it flow. For now here are some hugs

[Luvmydog]

Originally Posted by jean17

I have my second apt with my therapist for DBT tomorrow and I'm worried. I'm worried that I won't understand, that I haven't done enough, that I haven't tried hard enough, that I won't be able to stay with it, that trying to fit into a group will just be too hard. I called in once to talk to her and she asked me questions that made sense and got me to stop thinking that everything is my fault. But she also kept saying "read your handouts and do something about how you feel". And she said that she would be away, but I could call another therapist if I needed to, but that they would tell me the same thing. So part of DBT is tough-love. I just don't know if I can deal with someone using me like that. My first inclination is to shrink away and disappear.

I think it's great that you are taking the steps to better yourself, but steps can be scary. Remember that when you look at a full flight of steps, your goal is not to make it to the top of the staircase in one single stride. Hold onto the railing, and take one stair at a time. You can do it.

[Edda]

Originally Posted by jean17

I have my second apt with my therapist for DBT tomorrow and I'm worried. I'm worried that I won't understand, that I haven't done enough, that I haven't tried hard enough, that I won't be able to stay with it, that trying to fit into a group will just be too hard. I called in once to talk to her and she asked me questions that made sense and got me to stop thinking that everything is my fault. But she also kept saying "read your handouts and do something about how you feel". And she said that she would be away, but I could call another therapist if I needed to, but that they would tell me the same thing. So part of DBT is tough-love. I just don't know if I can deal with someone using me like that. My first inclination is to shrink away and disappear.

Jean... therapy is FOR YOU! For your benefit, for your your progress, for your healing!
Frankly, I find the idea of strangers playing "tough love" on you appalling.
It doesn't work with bpd anyway.

In any case, please, do express if you are unhappy with any aspect of your treatment.

You are a service user and have every right to receive the best possible treatment.