Is Jealousy an issue with you as a result of BPD?

Does anyone else out there get as jealous as I do with others? Especially with the same sex?

yes dare I do.. for me its fear of someone I care about leaving me for someone else...I feel I am not good enough or dont deserve them..... but jealousy is a very strong emotion its like a competition especially same sex... ...I have always been a very competitive person. athletically...team sports ect... probably I feel I have to prove myself to myself all the time....crazy...

YES! Sorry to yell but I get so jealous so easy and it can be over nothing. I never equated it with the BPD.

yessssss.

and also for NPD, BP, Schizophrenia, and many other disorders and even a issue with NON's too.

I think jealousy is probably the worse for Borderlines and Narcs.

I have intense amounts of jealousy and yes, especially with my female friends. I also always tend to form feelings for them and then I hate it if they are close with any one else or have a relationship with another girl. It's been like that for all three of my girl best friends. I don't let them see it but it drives me nuts. I'm jealous over every one.

OMG yessss!! It's usually with the inappropriate relationships I form, too. I hate when I get like that. I get crazy jealous, & then I tend to become all destructive and push them away bc of it.

I simply can not stand the thought some one and I don't care if they are male or female are better then me or get better recognition then me. But that's the narc in me. I had no idea borderlines were so similar. Are you jealous for different reasons? My reasons are simple, I need to be the best.

I don't need to be the best. I need to be loved.

Please excuse my ignorance, but what does love have to do with jealousy?

I am jealous if they love or like someone else. If they spend time with someone else that means they do not love me. It means that they hate me and think I am stupid or unworthy of their attention. I am jealous of the other people they want to be with because they are better than me and I am unlovable.

Thank you for not taking me the wrong way and for answering. I would not have made that connection. I understand, thx.

YES YES YES!! I couldn't have said it better myself

I get it now. We both feel jealousy but for different reasons, interesting!

Of course. It's not one most people make, it takes a certain..mind I'll say. I knew you were just coming at it from a different angle.

I'm glad I'm not the only one who feels this.

Definitely not. As bad as this sounds, this is def the monster in me, I fall in love with someone who's not mine to love. Then, I obsess over trying to make them love me just as much... If not more than the person they're actually with. When it blows up, which it always does, I feel worthless, unloved, destroyed, and the list goes on. Then, I feel like I deserve it, bc it was forbidden anyway. Vicious cycle

How do you deal with it? Does it go on for a long time?

For me its always with other guys. Jealous if they are married, better career, popular, smarter, better looking all of it.

For some things the jealousy never goes away.

what you said, but with other women. The biggest one and a hurdle I cannot get over is jealousy over fertility. I wanted more kids and not being able to has frustrated and made me jealous so much. Which in some cases has led to outright hatred on my part.

Hello, do you blame yourself for not being able to have children? I know it must hurt like crazy and if I wanted children but couldn't I'd be very jealous too.

Yes, I blame myself. I have known that I was infertile since I was 16 and yet I never really believed the doctors. When I became pregnant with our son without help I thought maybe they were wrong all those years ago. When we did fertility treatments we were given a 6% chance and 0% without help.

It does hurt like crazy. I have 36 nieces and nephews, 27 great ones, and so fertility issues do not run in my family. When I am having a bad day I think it is good that we only have one. We want to adopt but I am afraid the BPD will be a deterrent to that happening.

I get sooo jealous of my friends, family, etc. I'm jealous of their better health, careers, abilities, mostly jealous of those who seem happy all the time. I wish I could stop being jealous. I'm trying to keep reminding myself of everything I already have.

Yes.....extreme jealousy at times. I don't like my friends having other friends especially....

I hate this about myself....like so many other things about me

VERY jealous. Probably more so - I am very, VERY insecure, which feeds reaction seen as jealousy.

Yup, not just the same sex, but more so with the same sex because they are no better than me. They just got lucky. Or perhaps they are not so lucky, perhaps I am the lucky one. Perhaps the jealousy doesn't have to do with the BPD, perhaps I'm just jealous because they are more successful, have more friends, more money, nicer car, better family, meaningful relationships and nicer clothes than me. Perhaps I'm jealous because I'm poor, they are well-off, perhaps I'm jealous because they seem to have it all, I have nothing to lose, perhaps I'm jealous because they live in California and its cold here. Jealousy is a terrible feeling, it doesn't benefit me any, just makes my cup feel like its half empty.