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Nov 18, 2013, 08:31 PM
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I want so bad to go off on my ex for choosing to not be here to help me with our son.. I have a 4 year old Autistic son and it's so much work and sacrifices to take care of him by myself.. I have no family support and we are by ourselves.. His dad is choosing to not be here for me or him and I want to email him and go off on him so bad for his decisions.. but I also don't want to wake up tomorrow apologizing for being a "*****"..
What do I do? I want to just ignore him and let him live his life but I feel like he is being so selfish.. I just wish he would understand.. When he is sleeping in until noon on the weekend i am up making breakfast.. When he has to run errands or run to the store for something and he can just come and go as he pleases i have to get a kid dressed and take extra time to do so, when he is out with his 21 year old friends partying and getting drunk i'm home with a child who has a fever or whatever is going on, when he wants to sleep he can sleep, when he wants to eat he can eat, when he needs to go to work he can go to work, when he wants anything that he wants he can have it but i can't and i don't and it's so frustrating that i don't even have a slight break from that sometimes. and it pisses me off that he CHOOSES to not be here to help me out when he can be here.. Why do I have to do it all by myself?? I am a single mother with BPD with an autistic child and it gets to be so much sometimes and I feel like he deserves my wrath of total chaos directed at him... (sigh) |
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Nov 18, 2013, 09:20 PM
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 My son has Aspergers (or high functioning autism depending on which doctor we are dealing with) and so I really feel your pain. Special needs kids are demanding and it is so hard. I can't imagine doing it alone. As it is I depend on my husband a lot. Is there a respite program where you can get a little time alone?
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Nov 18, 2013, 09:34 PM
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It's not about getting time alone.. I can pay a sitter to get time alone.. It's about me going off on his dad for not being there to give me that time I need vs. my son having to go to a complete stranger so I can have that time.. I'm asking if I should go off on my husband for choosing to be away.....
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Nov 18, 2013, 10:11 PM
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Sorry I misunderstood. My guess is that going off on him is not going to change anything. That being said if I was in the same situation I would have already gone off on him.
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Nov 21, 2013, 07:45 AM
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Some people are sicker than others. That has been a long hard lesson for me, one I keep having to re-learn with the same people. When it gets that bad, I have to remember, I am not NOT in control, NO MATTER what, of anyone, no matter how I believe I am, I never will be and my whole life is a series of the universe trying to prove that to me. After no control, I have to realize when ppl DO do things that piss me off, no matter HOW they affect me (or my children) it has nothing to do with me. They are sick also, not everyone has a fancy diagnosis, or title to explain things away, but a LOT of people just don't have right thinking, a lot of ppl are unbelievably selfish, and it's NONE of my business. I deal with this with my kids' father all l the time. I have to pray that god allows me the ability to see that he is sick and it has nothing to do with me or my children. Some are sicker than others. I am doing my best, and I can, and I AM doing it. We do what we can, all we can do is all we can do, period--- end of story. Many prayers to you dear, hope you can find some peace or anything useful in what I have said, sorry it's so long.
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Nov 21, 2013, 04:16 PM
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I know how you feel but I've long since given up on my ex. She went so far as to remove herself from the state completely and my two boys, one being Asperger's afflicted, are with me 100% of the time. i understand but these people do not have the gumption to be actual parents. They are selfish and self serving. You're better off without him in the boy's life. |
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Nov 21, 2013, 08:30 PM
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Oh I'm so sorry. There was a 6 month period where my son's dad would not see him. He was a baby and a lot to handle with school and work and I felt ALL of these feelings. I'm so sorry. I hope he eventually realizes what he's missing out on.
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