[beloiseau]

About the questionable BPD diagnosis. He said that I definitely have traits, but that the treatment is the same no matter if you have traits or a disorder. He continued to say that I definitely have something 'in that ballpark' in regards to BPD. Why can't someone just agree with me and tell me I have it already. He said it's almost taboo.

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with or without a "label"..... does it matter?

Originally Posted by Useless Me

with or without a "label"..... does it matter?

Why do you say that? it's not about the label. It's about knowing definitively if it is the disorder that you have or it's not. Just knowing for sure that it's ____ disorder or _____ illness helps us to come to closure with the question asking "what's wrong with me?" I mean, before I had the Dx I was still pondering, well maybe it's not that and still wandering all over the place for answers. it give direction to your search for solutions.

Way more than being labeled.

Originally Posted by beloiseau

About the questionable BPD diagnosis. He said that I definitely have traits, but that the treatment is the same no matter if you have traits or a disorder. He continued to say that I definitely have something 'in that ballpark' in regards to BPD. Why can't someone just agree with me and tell me I have it already. He said it's almost taboo.

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I have dealt with this with a doctor. He treated my "symptoms" for years but never defined what it was that I was dealing with. It always bothered me that he beat around the bush and refused to actually give a dx. it's like, if you can't define whats going on, how can you truly treat me the best possible way?

Thre are those that say it's "taboo" but you know what? So what, don't doctors realize we don't care if it's taboo? it's not about saving face here it's about getting the right help.

My suggestion is if it's at all possible get another doctor. ONe that has a friggin backbone to actually diagnose you.

[beloiseau]

Originally Posted by s4ndm4n2006

I have dealt with this with a doctor. He treated my "symptoms" for years but never defined what it was that I was dealing with. It always bothered me that he beat around the bush and refused to actually give a dx. it's like, if you can't define whats going on, how can you truly treat me the best possible way?

Thre are those that say it's "taboo" but you know what? So what, don't doctors realize we don't care if it's taboo? it's not about saving face here it's about getting the right help.

My suggestion is if it's at all possible get another doctor. ONe that has a friggin backbone to actually diagnose you.

Haha you're awesome, thanks for this. I've only met him one time through the outpatient program i'm in, so i'll see what happens as we continue along. I've already practically diagnosed myself with it, I would just like to be completely validated. You're exactly right, I just want to know what's wrong with me so i can deal with it

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Originally Posted by beloiseau

Haha you're awesome, thanks for this. I've only met him one time through the outpatient program i'm in, so i'll see what happens as we continue along. I've already practically diagnosed myself with it, I would just like to be completely validated. You're exactly right, I just want to know what's wrong with me so i can deal with it

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Thanks but no, i'm not awesome I'm S4. That's all. Nothing less, nothing more

[beloiseau]

Originally Posted by s4ndm4n2006

Thanks but no, i'm not awesome I'm S4. That's all. Nothing less, nothing more

Haha you just put me in such a good mood . Which has been rare!

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[technigal]

Originally Posted by s4ndm4n2006

I have dealt with this with a doctor. He treated my "symptoms" for years but never defined what it was that I was dealing with. It always bothered me that he beat around the bush and refused to actually give a dx. it's like, if you can't define whats going on, how can you truly treat me the best possible way?

Thre are those that say it's "taboo" but you know what? So what, don't doctors realize we don't care if it's taboo? it's not about saving face here it's about getting the right help.

My suggestion is if it's at all possible get another doctor. ONe that has a friggin backbone to actually diagnose you.

This. I know I had at least two pdocs suspect BPD and said nothing. I hate to think of the time wasted and treatments that I did which didn't work.

There is closure in knowing that this is what I have and now we can deal with it.

Originally Posted by beloiseau

Haha you just put me in such a good mood . Which has been rare!

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Awe that makes me smile. If I can make someone's day.. even one, I'm happy.

[hawaii04]

Maybe single traits are a little easier to work with by themselves, a disorder makes it more difficult as it generally entails more. Just my thoughts though ~ Human nature leaves us inquiring, we have every reason to want to know and we have every right to know. Oddly enough it's almost a comfort of hope. If I had tests that told me, say, that I have Cancer, would they not tell me or would they keep it hush hush and give me meds while having no idea about the actual diagnosis or prognosis? Same difference in my view.

[beloiseau]

Originally Posted by hawaii04

Maybe single traits are a little easier to work with by themselves, a disorder makes it more difficult as it generally entails more. Just my thoughts though ~ Human nature leaves us inquiring, we have every reason to want to know and we have every right to know. Oddly enough it's almost a comfort of hope. If I had tests that told me, say, that I have Cancer, would they not tell me or would they keep it hush hush and give me meds while having no idea about the actual diagnosis or prognosis? Same difference in my view.

Yeah, I guess im just wondering how many traits do i have to have before he was actually going to tell me. And i really like your analogy at the end of your post, that is a really good way to describe it!

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[Aventurine]

I can understand wanting the official dx. I havnt yet, however my doctor has put me on a plan to explore BPD and bipolar. I know its not bipolar because my perspective and moods can change in the blink of an eye, and I am almost extremes of all 9 classic symptoms of BPD save suicide or self harm..

Anyhoo, I can relate because if you are given, for lack of better terminology, a name to your condition it all seems like there can be a workable solution somehow (which is hopeful).. but if there is no name, I feel.. I might actually be like everyone one else but just cant pull myself together enough to control my emotions. And after over 20 years of trying to control my emotions and asking myself "WTF is wrong with me?" I really don't want it to be about "just not pulling it together enough to be like everyone else." I used to ask anyone who would listen.. "How do you do it??" They would just shrug and say they "just do" or along those lines... that made me feel even more bazaar, pathetic and useless. Or worse, when someone says "Oh I struggle with feelings like that all the time, you're not unusual, I just don't let it affect me." and I am like. "AAAAAGGGHHH!!!!! But How!!!??!"

So an official diagnoses means to me.. not an excuse but a reason for tormenting myself and other all these years.