[technigal]

Bad mom award goes to....me!

Lost it tonight on the boy. He had a total fit at cubs and I lost it. He threw a fit because the leader said that she was taking no more pictures and he wanted another picture taken. He threw a block of Lego (a bunch of pieces put together not a single block) and just missed hitting another boy in the eye.

I feel horrible. I have apologized to him but DH is making me feel like crap for spanking an out of control child. I already feel like ****, I don't need the guilt trip that I am being put on. fml.

[shezbut]

Sorry that you had such a rough evening.

Cub scouts are rather young, as I recall from when I was a Brownie. I can imagine your son losing his temper ~ like if he was overly tired & hyper, that's a BIG trigger!

It is very hard in those intense emotional moments to take a step back emotionally & think about the situation rationally instead. But, I do recommend that you always aim towards doing so whenever you feel your emotions building up inside. It isn't easy, but it does become easier the more often it's done. And the tantrums also lose intensity and time!

(((( hugs )))) I have been on that border myself more than a few times, unfortunately. So, I really do understand how you're feeling inside. Try to give yourself a break, let go, and work harder to maintain better control of emotional reactions in the future.

[Verity81]

All parents at some point just lose it! Take this as a learning curve. Children's tantrums can be very very stressful so maybe write a list of possible actions you could take if he gets out of control again.
Don't be so hard on yourself, you sound like you have insight and are open to improvement so that makes you a good mom in my eyes.

[Angel of Bedlam]

Originally Posted by technigal

Bad mom award goes to....me!

Lost it tonight on the boy. He had a total fit at cubs and I lost it. He threw a fit because the leader said that she was taking no more pictures and he wanted another picture taken. He threw a block of Lego (a bunch of pieces put together not a single block) and just missed hitting another boy in the eye.

I feel horrible. I have apologized to him but DH is making me feel like crap for spanking an out of control child. I already feel like ****, I don't need the guilt trip that I am being put on. fml.

You aren't a bad mom! I've freaked out on Mase for things that I shouldn't have, but it doesn't mean that I don't love him with absolutely everything I have or that I'm a bad mom. We all make mistakes, and you're entitled to making your fair share of them too. Mommy guilt is the absolute WORST. I sincerely pray that you will feel better and that God will take this away from you.

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[Truth in Ruin]

It sounds like he may have needed a spank, or two. Be careful when apologizing, sometimes kids will read it as if you have made the mistake in behavior, not them. Don't be too hard on yourself! I think ignoring that behavior would have been a bigger mistake.

[technigal]

Thanks everyone. The big problem was that it was not a temper tantrum but a full-blown autistic meltdown. I apologized because we have a no hitting rule in our family as Robbie punches himself in the head (trying to work on that one). I lost control when I shouldn't have.

[bushwackback]

I understand what it is like to take care of an autistic child. I've been an ABA therapist too. Sometimes you have to hold them down at least so that they don't hurt themselves, let alone others. The others are right--it's better to address it with something not perfect that nothing at all. And you are even stronger now. ;-)

Don't lose confidence in yourself. You're a good parent.

[hawaii04]

Originally Posted by Truth in Ruin

It sounds like he may have needed a spank, or two. Be careful when apologizing, sometimes kids will read it as if you have made the mistake in behavior, not them. Don't be too hard on yourself! I think ignoring that behavior would have been a bigger mistake.

I agree!