[atomicc]

I know how they say girls always get a haircut/ dye after a break up..and I absolutely do haha. As you guys may have read from the BPD check in thread, my long shot school rejected me. It was ivy league, but I had all the qualifications..just not enough I guess. It's got me freaked my other school won't think I'm good enough either.
Anyway, I have this strong desire to dye my hair blue. I probably will tomorrow. I feel like changing myself will help me feel less depressed. I always do it. Does anyone else here do it? Is it perhaps a manifestation of my lack of self? Am I trying to change because I hate the me I am right now. The me who got rejected.
I don't know. My head hurts a lot and I just feel completely scared of the future now.

[Verity81]

I think its a way of putting the past behind us, like a statement to say, I am going to be different now, change my life, sort it out etc. I think it can be helpful though as a self soothing technique, I mean I love getting my hair, nails done etc.

Ivy can certainly give you connections that you cannot obtain from just any school. But if you were even remotely considered by Ivy - then many other great schools would love to have you.

You have shown yourself to be a very smart person and I am sure you will do well where ever you end up.

Go change the world!

[trying2survive]

Originally Posted by atomicc

I know how they say girls always get a haircut/ dye after a break up..and I absolutely do haha. As you guys may have read from the BPD check in thread, my long shot school rejected me. It was ivy league, but I had all the qualifications..just not enough I guess. It's got me freaked my other school won't think I'm good enough either.
Anyway, I have this strong desire to dye my hair blue. I probably will tomorrow. I feel like changing myself will help me feel less depressed. I always do it. Does anyone else here do it? Is it perhaps a manifestation of my lack of self? Am I trying to change because I hate the me I am right now. The me who got rejected.
I don't know. My head hurts a lot and I just feel completely scared of the future now.

hee hee, i won't be doing any hair dyeing (i don't have any,shaved it all off) so hair color probably won't be an option for me, ha ha ha. but i do change myself a lot, sometimes after a break up but not necessarily. every year i try to change for the better, i like to think of it like a model year of a car "this is the 2014 version of me" i don't know if that makes any sense ( or if anything i say makes any sense for that matter!) so it could very well be a manifestation of lack of self, but then again what is self? what are we? what are we supposed to be? i mean ,who knows. that sucks about the school, but i'm sure you'll get accepted somewhere. try not to worry about it too much, i think you'll be just fine!

[gayleggg]

I think I use hair color, having nails done as a way of trying to lift my depression. I normally always kept my hair dyed some color, in the last year I've been too depressed to even have the energy to color it, but this has been the worst depression I've had in many years. If it keeps on my hair wll be waist length and it's natural color.

Your post almost gives me the push I need to do something with mine.

[atomicc]

Originally Posted by gayleggg

I think I use hair color, having nails done as a way of trying to lift my depression. I normally always kept my hair dyed some color, in the last year I've been too depressed to even have the energy to color it, but this has been the worst depression I've had in many years. If it keeps on my hair wll be waist length and it's natural color.

Your post almost gives me the push I need to do something with mine.

I know just what you mean about not having the energy. I always want to dye my hair, then I think about the whole process and just can't get myself to do it!
'Thankfully I'm having my hair dresser friend come do it for me, this way I can be lazy and have lovely blue hair!
I hope you get around to doing yours! a good hair cut can really make a difference in how we see ourselves I think.