Does anyone get triggered by just about everything. Got bill in mail...overcharged amount...emotions instant uproar. Called about it, kept it cool(didn't yell), although couldn't control the shaking. I hate feeling so intense about everything. Trying to use DBT skills that i've been reading in book. Just an on-going daily struggle.

hey... i got a letter saying i have to go court cos i didnt pay a rail farte. i did py it n having to prove myself made me instantly wound up n a emotionalwreck on the phone xx i ave no dbt skills yet and struggle. wat do u do to try stop that?? xxx

Originally Posted by muaythailady88

hey... i got a letter saying i have to go court cos i didnt pay a rail farte. i did py it n having to prove myself made me instantly wound up n a emotionalwreck on the phone xx i ave no dbt skills yet and struggle. wat do u do to try stop that?? xxx

I think it's because I've just recently been diagnosed in the last year and realize I have absolutely nobody in my life for support and I just don't give a ****. Believe me it does not work all the time. I was on the phone about my bill. This is only the second time ever in my life I've been able to control it somewhat(can only work at home by myself). I have no control out in social situations. I just keep reading those DBT books over and over again...even though it doesn't make sense alot of the time. I usually end up crying later. So messed up.

xx me too hun. im lso new to it all. xxx i knoww taht feeling hun. im self employed cos i cant work with teams incase they ***** about me n i turn into mush xxx much hugs. im sorry u feel u have no suport but u have us here n feel free to message me anytime xxx

[Espresso]

Oh yes. That situation would have me enraged. I admire your restraint at not yelling. Impressive.

[ifst5]

Yes i do - and i think the circumstances don't help. Customer service is appalling in this country, so when i do get a (usually automated) letter informing me of some other idiots mistake i detest having to spend my own already miserable time becoming more miserable. Being bombarded by incompetence really sets me off. If i come home from some useless health appointment for example and then have to deal with more incompetence i go one of two ways - fly into a rage or feel so exhausted i just slump into a near catatonic state. Of course i know things have to be done. It's part of the responsibility of being an adult. But when it's so.damn.difficult.all.the.time it wears you down. Perhaps if other parts of my life weren't also joyless it wouldn't bother me as much.

[waiting4]

Happens to me too.....I just bought a car, and it took weeks before I could actually go to the dealership to do it. I knew it was going to be awful, humiliating, frustrating and time consuming. I knew it. I was literally in tears before leaving to go.

And of course, it didn't go that way. It was no where near as awful as I thought it would be. Still, I was exhausted when it was finished, and when I got home, rather than being elated I finally had transportation I could depend on, I just sat down on the sofa and bawled...because I knew something would go wrong, eventually. It always does. So then I have more stuff to worry about.

I think the thing that makes me the most 'crazy' is that I try so hard to think of every contingency, everything that could go wrong so I'm prepared in some way...maybe can't fix it, but at least be emotionally ready for it. And usually it's something that never occurs to me that happens, so not only am I melting down because of situational frustration, but I'm furious with myself because I didn't see it coming.

There is no way for me to win, with me.

Accept that you're an emotionally charged person and go with it. Accept it and from there you can learn to know what to expect, cope with it and even offset it at times. If you can't offset the emotional highs and lows just learn to cope with those moments as best you can.

Yup - and it is getting worse (so I have been told).....