Is it Healthy to Ignore An Acquaintance Who Has Offended You?

Because of where I am in my life right now. I just can't bring myself to get even. That mentality kinda reminds me of the middle east. It's just one retaliation after another, they can't even think about anything else. I get even, she gets even, I retaliate, she retaliates. Where and when does it end? All that time and energy I could be using to do things I like, are wasted thinking about people I don't like... I just don't think it's worth it.

@ Leftymac... well, to be specific. It was only one encounter that lasted less than 60 seconds. and it kinda came out of left field. I thought she was a pretty decent person before that. But... I also had a rather odd encounter with her husband weeks before.... He came up to me with a condescending smile on his face and said "so, you're the one that owns that business?". To which I replied "yes, I do". He then walked away with the same condescending smile on his face, and hasn't said another word to me, although I see him from time to time.

Some people's kids. I tell you!

Rearrange your head and use your self respect so you do not feel insulted/offended! If you run your business well or are working on running your business well (working on its problems) and you are proud of your son, her comments make no sense? Smile/look confused, shrug, and walk away. "Your mother wears combat boots" does not offend you because (a) your mother does not wear combat boots or (b) your mother does wear combat boots and enjoys doing so. An acquaintance cannot know much about your business or your son and what you and he have been through so her comments are truly "ignorant". Don't waste your emotional time, effort, or space in your head on thinking about her and her husband. Don't "see" condescension on other's faces, that is your interpretation and only speaks of your thoughts/feelings about yourself. Seeing "odd" is good: "so you're the one. . ." and walking away is odd. You're fine, he's the one with a problem.

I see. Then it's no biggie really. But you made it seem like a big deal, at least in my view. Usual for us BPDS... Plus, I was a bit overwhelmed with joy of the new music that I've discovered and extremely angered and saddened that I've parted ways with my father. After all I've done to him, I, still get that. Still, I feel empathy and care for all of us with different mental illnesses, but paranoid schizophrenics made in my s---tlist. NOGOD forbid that I enter that area of the forum.

@perna.. Well said. My son and my business aren't perfect, by any means... and I am aware of issues that I am working on in the privacy of my own world.

hope thing improve, maybe this person will go away ..that would be nice

I've seen her a couple of times at the library story time, and didn't really ignore her, but didn't have much reason to interact, either, so I didn't.

It felt good. And I still think it's the healthiest and least dramatic way to deal with the issue.