Another question

Sorry for posting so much but havent got a t yet do need to get all my answers from you lovely fellow sufferers.
I am unable to lie even if asked personal questions. I end up sharing information that is private or that most people would keep to them selves. I really hate this aspect of my personality, over sharing. Is it a trait of bpd?

Not that I know of. Google Borderline diagnostic criteria DSM 4tr (or 5)

I think that might fall under the area of wanting validation from others. You openly tell them things because you don't want to be judged for hiding things. But if nobody asks, you won't ever tell for fear of people looking down on you.

At least, that's how I geraniums it. I had a friend who I could tell anything to. My splitting destroyed the friendship, and I'm trying to fix it.(So hard and stressful)

My dear friend, I have the same exact problem (I'm also a borderline, BTW). I end up sharing the most intimate details of my life with almost complete strangers. I have read tons of BPD literature, and they all concur that borderlines tend to have a hard time keeping personal details private. We tend to share intimate details with people, for many reasons:

1 - We have a strong need to be heard, especially when we don't have a therapist (like you mentioned).
2 - We have a need for "instant intimacy" (this is very common), and have this illusion that, the more we share, the more the other person will share, and we will become closer as a result of this sharing. However, have you noticed that, when we share a lot of details, the other person (typically a non) doesn't share the same amount of info, and we get disappointed, and we think that they're not interested in us. Ever feel this way ? This is me in every friendship/relationship.
3 - The inability to control emotions, which pretty much defines BPD, means that there is no protective cognitive mechanism that would say "STOP, don't tell him that, because he will treat you differently, and he will write nasty messages on your Facebook page". In other words, we easily get carried away when we start to have a pleasant conversation with someone. There's no safeguard to protect us from saying too much.

I hope what I said makes some sense. You seem like a wonderful person. Feel free to PM me, anytime.

Have a great day/night

It is - impulsivity is a trait of BPD. Oversharing, or to put it another way, being unable to stop yourself, is a feature of this impulsivity. BPD people tend to fly through life at ten million miles an hour, because we're constantly trying to keep ahead of the next complete collapse.

Get a therapist. It's essential to be treated, as, although BPD does go away on its own, it's usually about the age of 55 when that happens. With a therapist, you can get your life under control, and your sanity back. It's the hardest step in the world to take. But it is important that you do it.