[fletch33]

I have really been having a hard time lately with trying to figure out why I have literally no friends to hang out with. I have two friends but they live far away and we can't hang out. I have tried to make friends at work and school but I always have that blow up in my face. I usually manage to hang out with someone one time or so before they decide to avoid ever doing that again. All of the long term friendships I have had minus the two that live far away have stopped being friends with me. Usually the reason I get is somewhere along the lines of "I can't deal with your mental illness anymore." I mean I can't possibly be that heinous of a person to be around. My therapist thinks I have a good personality so that should count for something, right? I dunno, just so tired of spending soooo much time alone. I love my fiancé and my mom but they can only do so much for me. I really just want a good friend to hang out with.

Does anyone else feel like a social leper as well? I'm waiting to find out that I have horrific body odor or something... at least that would explain it.

[ifst5]

I suppose if you want it that badly you can only keep trying - be wary of coming across as desperate though. Maybe a good approach would be to engage in more things that you enjoy (e.g. through clubs and activities etc.) and hope that friendships will occur as by product? I don't think you can really be classified as a social leper - you have two close friends who in the very least you can always Skype and you have a fiancee too, so that's one up on a lot of us here. I hope your situation improves.

Yes I agree I feel like a social leper or something. It destroys my confidence because I think am bein nice ??! I'd do anything for anyone maybe it's come across as annoying or needy? I duno xxxx hugs. Anyways u have us as friends too xxx

[Notoriousglo]

No friends here.

[Astriferous]

I feel that way all the time. I have a handful of friends that I'm extremely grateful for, but I don't feel like most of them are really there for me.

The only advice I can offer is to cultivate the friendships you do have.

[haleylaurel]

i feel EXACTLY the same...it's like WHAT AM I DOING WRONG??? do i pick the wrong type of friend? do i attract ****** people?? every friend i've had has blown up in my face. i have my boyfriend and my parents to talk to but that's really it. i have no friends and i don't get why.

[fletch33]

I would do more stuff outside of work and school, but I honestly don't have the time. I think once I get out of school and start my career, it will be better. I think sometimes I do come across as desperate. I think I may also divulge too much about myself too quickly. Do others have a problem with that? I think it's because I have had so much counseling that I'm used to just telling people everything about me. I don't know. Just a thought.

[Astriferous]

Originally Posted by fletch33

I would do more stuff outside of work and school, but I honestly don't have the time. I think once I get out of school and start my career, it will be better. I think sometimes I do come across as desperate. I think I may also divulge too much about myself too quickly. Do others have a problem with that? I think it's because I have had so much counseling that I'm used to just telling people everything about me. I don't know. Just a thought.

I've a problem with that as well. I don't know why I do it.

[portersmom]

I have no friends... Been a loner all my life but always had a spouse. Now I don't even have that. Thank God for my son and my mom. They keep me strong.